So I have slowly began to get the sack enough to approach some girls, and I usually open with something that gets them laughing, smiling, whatever. Only thing is, I run out of stuff to say really quick. I don't wan't to take the boring, where you from, what do you do, blah blah blah, b.s. I have read some of the stuff on here about rapport and all, but still had nothing. What the hell can I talk about without seeming like a boring schmuck?? It's funny, because I can come up with 1000 things in my head, but when I'm there, I get nothing. Not really cuz I'm nervous, just because I can't think of anything to say.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Say what???
- Thread starter Drewskie
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Thanks PHAT rabbit, I actually do have some good stories, and all true since I have done a lot of sh!t. Thing is, how do I even bring it up?? I can't just be like hi, yaddah, yaddah, by the way, this one time I was in mexico.........How to bring it in the conversation, more importantly, how to keep them interested?? Thanks.
Nice. Thanks for the details, and I f-in love the audio journal, tight. That nurse sounded like a real cutie. It was just weird, the last few approaches I did, me and my buddy who is pretty good with girls anyway, just couldn't seem to keep them interested. I didn't really even have time to throw in a story, maybe it was just their personalities.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dannyrt34
Master Don Juan
Nice piece of advice. Just ask a question about how she feels on a certain topic you want to talk about, she'll answer and then proceed to talk about that subject. For her sake, let her interact with your stories though. Practice helps alot.PHAT Rabbit said:
I recently met a girl that talks a SUPER LOT. Like you don't even know. I mention one subject and she goes off and has 10 stories to tell me on that subject. I can barely ever get a word in, haha. I kinda like her though, I always used to have a hard time talking but I actually learned from her how to keep conversations going quite well.
Your_Royal_Flyness
Don Juan
Life is situational, man. Try to keep it simple. Women can tell if you spent the entire afternoon memorizing a story. Plus chicks like talking about themselves. The last thing you want to do is sit there and tell a woman a long-winded story about yourself--especially if you two just met. On the surface she may act like she's enjoying your story, but deep down she is probably like, "What the ___ is he talking about?"Drewskie said:
Put it this way, the less you reveal about yourself (initially), the better. Women have a tendency to project their fantasies onto men during the beginning of your interaction. (Which is why my friends and I routinely bag women within the first few minutes of meeting them). Think about it like this...as she is telling you about herself, she is subconsciously feeling closer to you. The more she feels comfortable, the more she tells.
This is what you do. (I hate giving advice WITHOUT giving you a plan of action):
Next time you are talking with a woman and feel as though you are running out of things to say, ask her about something she's wearing, i.e. "Thats an interesting necklace you're wearing...what's the story behind that?" If she mentions that her mom got it for her, ask her about her family. If she says her brother has a temper problem, throw in some humor and say something like, "Oh now I know where you get it from." (with a smile)
Be personable and witty. Confident. Also, don't be so afraid to run out of stuff to say. Sometimes the awkward silence can increase sexual tension. Bask in it
Thanks man, I like that you say you back everything up with action, that's cool. I usually do just play off what the girl says, but when they're being totally unresponsive, it's kinda hard. I figure that just means they aren't interested, but I usually don't get the blow-off vibe either.