"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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say im leaving or not ..quick advice

fuko2007

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hey ss...i need some quick advive. im going out of town for the weekend and am wonder if i should tell the girl im seeing or not or wait untill she calls or texts. Shes sort of done this to me before except making plans to go to a party and didnt saything until i asked then she got mad. But she has been kinda distant and a ***** the las couple of days but she says its due to stress at work. But she did go out the other night and sort of blow me off. found her drunk passing out in her car in her drive way. but anyway any advice> tell her now or wait untill she asks? she will prolly get pissed if i dont say and will be just a little pissed if i do. But she has plans this saturday any way.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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fuko2007

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Parad0x said:
She sounds like a low quality woman, don't get emotionally attached to her.

If you aren't emotionally attached to her, you owe her nothing, ergo, don't tell her.

On a side-note, drop that *****
yeh...we both are emotionally invested i guess. Weve been seeing eachother for two years. but she seems to have a double standard but not see it. Its ok for her to go do what she wants when she wants and dont question her or you will be *****ed at, but if you dont communicate oh hell. But the relationship seems to be on her terms honestly. when it first started it was on mine now its on hers and everything is about her.
 

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I think I congratulated you on trying to save this one in your other post, but now I'm getting the impression that she needs a wake up call. Saying her work is stressful is no excuse for giving you the sh!ts.

I'd think about just leaving for the weekend and not telling her. She may not even notice.
Even if she does, just come back at her and say "I didn't think it would bother you. You're too busy being angry about work to even pretend to be interested in what I'm doing!"

I know, this will cause a fight, but if you want to bring things to a head, this is one way to do it.

Good luck!
 
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