"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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sav

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so i saw an Ex girlfriend, we havent really spoken and kept up together for about 3 months... when i met her i could instantly feel that connection we once had...


how do you deal with wanting to be with somebody yet knowing that if it didnt work out the first time, it wont work out the second time, it wont work out the third time.. heh...

how do you completely heal? there's a reason i dont keep up with her, because it brings back old feelings, and i can tell its mutual and not just one sided...

we went out for a coffee, caught up a little and i could feel that vibe... when you are truely in sync with the other persons thoughts, to the point that they dont have to explain anything. I havent had that with a girl since and ir eally really miss it.. heh..

i'd like people who have been through something similar to reply... if you havent then please dont bother..
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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banging into exs sucks big time unless you've met a great new girlfriend and you wonder what you ever saw in that she beast. exs are exs for a reason...things didn't work out. ever have a good job and after working there for so long, it gets crappy and you eventually quit. would you go back to that job? of course you wouldn't unless you were desperate for money. women don't change. if she was a nag, she'll still be a nag. if she was a b@tch, she'll still be a b@tch. don't let her sweet attitude hide the fact that she is an ex and it got there for a reason.

instead of focusing on the past ex. look all around you. there are many beautiful girls out there that will blow your mind. look to the future
 

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sav said:
...how do you completely heal? there's a reason i dont keep up with her, because it brings back old feelings, and i can tell its mutual and not just one sided....
You stop obsessing over the ex and move on. You realize what didn't work, you resolve not to get into that type of situation again and you get on with your life. Do something (or somebody) and replace those obsessive thoughts.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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A coworker of mine once said, "You don't ever get over the big things; you just learn to live with them." She was speaking in reference to her son passing away, and it holds true to any major event. This is one of the few times you have to be rational and not trust your gut (or your heart). Stay away from her. Do not do anything with her. She is not your friend, maybe she could be when you can be near her and not get butterflies in your stomach - but stay away.
 
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