"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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saw an EX

sav

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so i saw an Ex girlfriend, we havent really spoken and kept up together for about 3 months... when i met her i could instantly feel that connection we once had...


how do you deal with wanting to be with somebody yet knowing that if it didnt work out the first time, it wont work out the second time, it wont work out the third time.. heh...

how do you completely heal? there's a reason i dont keep up with her, because it brings back old feelings, and i can tell its mutual and not just one sided...

we went out for a coffee, caught up a little and i could feel that vibe... when you are truely in sync with the other persons thoughts, to the point that they dont have to explain anything. I havent had that with a girl since and ir eally really miss it.. heh..

i'd like people who have been through something similar to reply... if you havent then please dont bother..
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

insanity

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banging into exs sucks big time unless you've met a great new girlfriend and you wonder what you ever saw in that she beast. exs are exs for a reason...things didn't work out. ever have a good job and after working there for so long, it gets crappy and you eventually quit. would you go back to that job? of course you wouldn't unless you were desperate for money. women don't change. if she was a nag, she'll still be a nag. if she was a b@tch, she'll still be a b@tch. don't let her sweet attitude hide the fact that she is an ex and it got there for a reason.

instead of focusing on the past ex. look all around you. there are many beautiful girls out there that will blow your mind. look to the future
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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sav said:
...how do you completely heal? there's a reason i dont keep up with her, because it brings back old feelings, and i can tell its mutual and not just one sided....
You stop obsessing over the ex and move on. You realize what didn't work, you resolve not to get into that type of situation again and you get on with your life. Do something (or somebody) and replace those obsessive thoughts.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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kyphan

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A coworker of mine once said, "You don't ever get over the big things; you just learn to live with them." She was speaking in reference to her son passing away, and it holds true to any major event. This is one of the few times you have to be rational and not trust your gut (or your heart). Stay away from her. Do not do anything with her. She is not your friend, maybe she could be when you can be near her and not get butterflies in your stomach - but stay away.
 
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