"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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saw a CA girl the day after I number closed - did I handle it well?

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A couple of days ago, I found myself sitting near a pretty cute girl on the tram heading toward Uni.

I never looked directly at her eyes and didn't initiate any convo - the tram was really crowded, a fat stinky dude was leaning over me and still felt a little strange from an earlier nosebleed.

Luckily we got out at the same stop, a couple of stops before the main campus. She was clomping along beside me, so I said, "Those are some noisy shoes you've got there," and she laughed. So screw the 3 second rule.

We were talking and she acted fairly interested and comfortable, it turned out we study in the same building. I got the number.

Then yesterday I was walking into the building and she was standing against a pillar on the path to the lifts looking at her phone. She looked up and smiled, and it took me a split second to remember who it was!

I smiled back and continued walking quickly towards her, she looked down briefly then back again and smiled. By this time I was almost up to her, and without breaking stride, smiled and said, "How's it going?" and continued on to the lifts.

She must have thought I was going to stop and talk! (everyone uses the stairs in that building). By the way she looked a bit hotter, which pleased me.

What do you think? should I have stayed and talked?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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probably should have stayed and talked for a few secs or even if u were going to plan something, u should have said "hey, i was going to call u, but here u are, so u wanna get together sat nite? or sometin)

that would have been the dj thing i rekon, but revertheless, simple and sweet approach m8. I liked that.
 
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Yeah you're right, but it's only the day after, and I want her to wait a few days before I set a date.

Who knows, maybe if I see her again tomorrow, I'll ask her out!
 
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Originally posted by gav
probably should have stayed and talked for a few secs or even if u were going to plan something, u should have said "hey, i was going to call u, but here u are, so u wanna get together sat nite? or sometin)

that would have been the dj thing i rekon, but revertheless, simple and sweet approach m8. I liked that.
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I totally DISAGREE!! Don't say things like "I was going to call you but..." Don't even worry about whether you should've stayed and talked. Your doing fine, makes her think your a busy man. Call her up or if you know your going to see her soon, go up to her and arrange a get together.


Your doing fine.



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you should have made conversation but i wouldnt have mentioned teh date/ number
unless she brings it up

she might assume you were in a hurry but personally if i were her i would find that a little cold.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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heh

I called her up today and she said she better not see me for coffee because her boyfriend may not like it :)
 
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