"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
savin it for marriage
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Jukeboxhero
Senior Don Juan
However, this site is great for advice on improving yourself in general, as well as your social skills. So whatever you choose to do you can get a lot of useful information from this site.
B-Lemond
Master Don Juan
syncmaster
Master Don Juan
jsut not hardcore, i never been to church willingly sicne primarmy school
but still sort of believe in god and stuff, but yeah,
i rekcon theres nothign wrong with sex, abortion or divorce
though i just dont really like the idea of divorce
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Keeper
Master Don Juan
Go with what you believe in. If your church says sex before marriage is bad, then don't do it. :-/ Don't ask us about religion, as your pastor or priest or minister.
MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
Alphathree
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(Incidentally this is a good attitude to have even if you do want sex.)
I personally LOVE to make out with women. It sounds dorky, but I have made out with so many women without really wanting sex. Kissing is so intimate. Heh, I sound like a woman now...
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
Jesus said "I tell you that if you look upon a woman with lust in your heart, you have committed adultery", this scripture alone is enough to damn every male on planet earth from puberty to old age. I commit this sin on a daily basis because it's hardwired into our bio-psychological chemestry. I don't think Jesus meant to illustrate how screwed men are in this life so much as that there's really nothing we can do to avoid sin on our own accord.
If you are in fact sincere in this conviction I'd have to stress that what is offered to the men on this site in the most positive refelctions of what a man should be is far more important to someone such as yourself than to guys how don't share your outlook on sex. I say this because the very requirements of saving yourself until marriage don't allow you the luxury of being wrong in your assessment of women that having multiple partners will teach you by experience. You have to know your worth by learning it from the experiences of others rather than doing for yourself. You have to adopt the idea of being the PRIZE and understanding what women truly want (not what they say they want) in a man without the benefit of learning this first hand. You also have the hinderance of achieving the goals and ambitions you have either by accepting the responsibilities of marriage and driving towards them or remaining celibate while you do so. Sex is a strong impulse for the gender with the most testosterone and it becomes far too easy to compromise your personal identity and life's ambitions to accomodate the ONLY way to have sex - in your case marriage being the only option. Likewise it's far too easy to settle for a woman without the maturity to handle the reponsibilities, liabilities and accountabilities of marriage in ordrer to plot the shortest distance between your desire and her intimacy - again, marriage.
It is far more important to put your own self-interest ahead of women and everything else if this is your conviction, because you stand to lose so much, without the benefit of experience. I know at some point of reading this you'll say to yourself, "I'll just trust in God to bring me the best wife." And while that's a noble, faithful consideration, I'm sure you wouldn't say "I'll just trust in God to keep the cars away from me while I go play on the freeway." There is still an aspect of making the best decision for your life.
Personally I think there is far too little positive masculinity emphasized in any denomination of the church today. Women have learned from countless generations that the next best means of controlling men besides sex is their own self-righteous religious virtues. Beware this dynamic, it's exactly why most churches are as feminized and retain such a high concentration of AFCs as they do. I have yet to encounter the church guy who isn't a complete AFC and supplicates to his wife because she's controlled the sex for the entirety of their marriage.
Better to live under the corner of a house than share it with a quarrelsome wife.
WORKEROUTER
Master Don Juan
MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
Well, I don't believe that my 1986 Ford Ranger is made by Ford. I believe that Chevrolet made it. The Bible expressly forbids fornication, and it uses the word "fornication" too. Fornication is defined as extramarital sex.
So pimp its scary
Master Don Juan
If you wish to repress your nature, then by all means save it for some catholic girl that you met in your church...
if you wish to follow nature, then your going to have to abandon your ideas of saving yourself for marriage.
Then again, I am a corruptor of catholicism, and have changed at least 3 girls from saving themselves for marriage.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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they're just "best practices" from back in the day that were made sinful as a means of social control...
supposedly we are supposed to be made in god's image... are you a giant d1ckhead? would you make people burn in hell for freakin having sex? come on, i promise you if there's a god he's not that big of a d1ck. I doubt he cares what you do as long as you're a nice guy...(but not an AFC nice guy
)you can be a christian and still think the bible is made up and stupid.
p.s.
Proverbs
23:13 Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.
23:14 Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell.
real christians beat their children with rods. Disfigurement is ok! He'll thank you for it in heaven...
Iamnotacrook
Senior Don Juan
You are awesome.
Skydiver43127
Senior Don Juan
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.