“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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speakeasy

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Half my friends are homebodies, some are married, some have no game(I'm no mack myself, but I at least understand the fundamentals of the game). In a word, I have no wingmen. It looks like I've got only myself to get me out of this mess so I'm I may have to start hitting the clubs and bars by myself.

Now for those of you guys who have done this, how do you not look like a loner walking up in the club by yourself? What about social proof? If you aren't there with friends, does that mess up your game? I imagine if she asks, "where are your friends" and you say, "I came alone" then she's going to find that creepy. But then maybe that doesn't happen. I've never been to a bar or club by myself. I've gone to many concerts alone, but that's a bit different because people are focused on the band, not socializing.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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lol, I am my social proof.

when I am in Little Rock, my sarging partner is my old oneitis. she's a head turner and we have been "working the field" together for years.. wE have signals and everything.
 

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I never go to clubs alone, but sometimes I get bored and walk off and go sarging by myself for a while. In the past some have asked me where my friends were and I've just said, there some where i'm gunna go find them in a minute.
 

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speakeasy said:
Now for those of you guys who have done this, how do you not look like a loner walking up in the club by yourself? What about social proof? If you aren't there with friends, does that mess up your game? I imagine if she asks, "where are your friends" and you say, "I came alone" then she's going to find that creepy. But then maybe that doesn't happen. I've never been to a bar or club by myself. I've gone to many concerts alone, but that's a bit different because people are focused on the band, not socializing.
Say you've lost your friends if they ask.

Now if you want to know how to have fun at a club and make friends watch this.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rN6FwGTfx2c
 

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Speakeasy.
Dude, please put the thought in your mind that you don't NEED "Wingmen".
And replace the thought that "I have to go Solo." with. "Cool, no one to hold me down! I'm free to go or stay as long as I want and go chat up the hot chicks I like!"
Think of just finding a cool girl to go and chat, hang out with , and build some rapport....build a connection.
Don't think of "Pick up" or "Sarging", man.
They are ultimately limiting. Becasue most guys place too much emphasis on the outcome.
Think about this.
You see a girl who gives you nice EC, and smiles.
You go up to her, dude.
"Hey, how's it going? I saw your warm smile and wanted to come over and say hello. What's your name?"
Do you need a wingamn for that?
No.
IF she's nice, she'll talk to you, bro. She will.
Find out things about her. Find out what she's like first. Then think if you want to work on uppping your attraction levels, and sexuality.
If not, big deal. You chatted up yet another cute chick.
What does that mean?
More confidence.
More experience.
Less anxiety.
Yet another Positive experience, you Suave handsome Devil, you.

Dude, think about getting to know women.
How do they act. What do they say? What are their feelings? Opinions?
You might finid some really cute chick that is really very interesting.
Or maybe soome chick who is fun.
Or whatever, maybe she's just not interested in you ....right now.
Don't worry about it.

You're there to BE SOCIAL.
That's it.
Go hang out in a cool scene, with great music, some Peppermint Schnapps or Curvosier or whatever! And you can go up to any chick who gives you some IOIs. Go have fun, man.
You don't need a wingman, dude. You don't.

There's nothing wong with being the Lone Wolf.
In fact, many chicks find it sexy.
They actually feel your Confidence for going out alone.
It speaks volumes. In my experience, I have NEVER had a girl think it's "creepy". Or "slimy". I just don't give off those vibes. IN fact, I actually pick up the vibes that going up to the woman and starting convo is expected of me ("Ok, here he comes."). I think women would find me sitting by myself and NOT approaching to be "creepy." Not if I came alone.
(They ask me "Did you come alone?" plenty of times. Sometimes I'll say "Yes." sometimes I'll tell them that I was waititng for a buddy to meet me here but he flaked or something. It doesn't really matter. I don''t care what she thinka of that, really.)
(Women want to be seduced. Woman want to feel sexual passion. But you DON"T know the psychological makeup of the chick your chatting. So you have to build trust, comfort, and rapport first. ALWAYS.)
Don't give off "I'm on the prowl." vibes necessarily. No "Desperation" vibes ever. Never look, or act, or feel desperate. There's no good reason for this.

But if you're a sexual being, not afraid of your Testosterone, and loves women.....go and do it.
Women are dying for us to approach.
Just think of having great interactions with women.
If you find a chick that YOU really like, and you KNOW that she's interested in you. Then escalate. If not, keep it platonic and excuse yourself when you feel like it. You don''t owe her anything. DO you?
So move on and find somoe other chick.

Anyway, none of this shoudl be scary.
Every guy needs to reprogram himself if he thinks approaching women and talking to them, and then if YOU are interested, escalate and get a number.
And never take any "rejection" as a "LOSS", or take it personally.
In fact, 9 times out of 10, that chick will still think you're cute ro whatever, but she just wasn't feeling it that night with you.
Big deal.

Don't be afraid, or get panicky, or start to worry about the "outcomes".
Fvck that sh*t.
Go out and have some fun like men do.
And this is what we do.
There's nothing "creepy" about it at all.

Good luck.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Interceptor, I'm sold man. Great post. I think I'm going to go ahead and roll out alone tomorrow night.
 

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I seen a tip on here before that I liked.

When a girl asks "Where are your friends?"

Say : "Everywhere."
 

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Dannyrt34 said:
I seen a tip on here before that I liked.

When a girl asks "Where are your friends?"

Say : "Everywhere."
sweet...

and speakeasy...

i find it better to go out alone , than with friends who have limiting beliefs
 

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Have you ever been to a club with your friends and lost them for a while? Same principles apply... if a chick asks you where your friends are just say "i don't know" or "probably on the dancefloor".

Also, try to make friends with everyone in the place.

Consider cold-approaches too, they are best performed solo.
 

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Great thread guys. Take it from a guy that has had to sarge solo from time to time. It's tough but it makes you a better man.

The cool part is you can hit multiple venues, which is tough to do when your wingman *****es about leaving one place that is HB deficient.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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