Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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sarging solo

speakeasy

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I think this wed I am going to go out sarging alone. There's a club I like that opens up at 9 but doesn't start getting crowded till 11:00. I'm wondering if it's best to show up a bit early, or after everyone is there.

I know some of you guys say sarging solo is great. To be honest, I'm a bit self-conscious abou it. Any tips on doing this solo? Like the best time to show up, what to say if she asks "who are you here with?" If you are at a club alone, doesn't that lower your social proof?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Weak_Game

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not being a di_ck here, use the search function, i saw a few good posts about this same topic... its doable just be confident
 

nonchalant

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i have had mixed results, depending on the venue.

sarging solo in a crowded club can be fun and exciting, or it could be intimidating and really mess with your state.

i'm just starting to do this, but the best tip i can give is - you are only solo until you start talking to someone. open up immediately, even with the bartender or waitress. open up anyone, guys included, groups. you will have to really put an effort into being 'on'.

it may help to use an opener like 'hey i just moved to the area, where are the cool clubs?'

if someone asks if you're alone say 'yeah i find it easier to meet new people when i go out alone'. most will admire your attitude.
 

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Holy b*tch fest in here today.

Anyhow, yeah, I've done this a couple of times lately. Many of my freinds are wimping out of the bar game, so I've wandered down to places on my own. Usually I'll bump into people I know somewhat as customers from works, and get enough social contact with that.

Also, when you're not with someone else, you don't have to worry about them. You can just do what you want. I think I've had my best success (though very recent and very limited) on my own.

As an older guy, though (31), I have to watch out for the "creepy old man" factor.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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L777

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Bvbidd said:
Don't call it sarging you geek.
lol...good call.

I tried this once and felt like an idiot waiting in the line on my bill, particulalry when it was nearly all lads around me...but once inside, you can talk to anyone and they'll be cool with you (mostly because they're wankered or doing pills). But that was in Bolton...lol
 
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