"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Sapiosexual

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The latest dating trend I see is girls stating they are "sapiosexual" on their OLD profiles. Is this a deal where if you have to say your are, you aren't? Have any of you dated anyone that made this claim?

Sapiosexual: Attracted to intelligence or the human mind. A person who finds intelligence to be a sexually attractive quality in others.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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mrgoodstuff

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The latest dating trend I see is girls stating they are "sapiosexual" on their OLD profiles. Is this a deal where if you have to say your are, you aren't? Have any of you dated anyone that made this claim?

Sapiosexual: Attracted to intelligence or the human mind. A person who finds intelligence to be a sexually attractive quality in others.
Most of them are liars. They Hate intelligence.
 

Who Dares Win

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Just the last trend for women who have to show how special they are...so special that they write what all the others do.

If you use tinder you probably noticed that most of the girls "like to travel", "picture with dog or cat", "tatoos", "picture of her either clubbing or showing her life style","something about how special they are" (sapiosexual is an example).

Then of course all the "swipe left if...." as if you could match her by swiping right without her consent...

But again we cant be mad at them, they as a sex are sheepminded and herd oriented, too much individuality means that she is rejected..and this usually happens only cause of look nowadays.
 

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Hmmm. Wasn't aware that had become a buzzword. I do know women for whom intelligence was the highest priority criteria, including my best friend from college.

She married a reservist military officer who has advanced now to lieutenant colonel with graduate degrees in both physics & psychology. Her husband sees veterans with PTSD. They've been married almost 20 years & she (very smart herself) is still completely enamored with his brains.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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TheMonkeyKing

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Yeah. It's not really a new thing. But like everything else it's relative; and 'intelligence' is highly variable, even within an individual.

You can have academic degrees coming out of your a$$, but have no real world practical knowledge, social skills, or sense of humour. I like bit of intellectual conversation here and there, but there comes a point where the talking has to stop and the fcking has to start. I've met a fair number of intelligent women in my life, and not one of them has wanted me to speak Latin, recite algebraic equations or quote French literature in the bedroom.

Intelligence is only one facet of personality, which in turn is only one facet of attraction. But of course in this age of mass disenfranchisement, people latch on to anything to provide a sense of identity.
 

mrgoodstuff

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You can tell someones intelligence by how they put information together. So it's not talking about physics or math. And yes intellect depth and wisdom in a female gets my blood moving.
 

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I look at these emerging terms and laugh when I hear "pansexual" and "asexual" ad infinitum. WTF is wrong with modern society today?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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SuckItUp

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It's a bull**** qualifier designer to weed out guys. Most guys will tell a "sapiosexual" woman why they are smart and she gets bored.

Along as you don't come off like a sad you're good to go.
 
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