lizardking82
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Apparently, girls use this term nowadays and it means they are attracted to smart, funny guys, but mainly smart. Is this really a thing or just bull****?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Most of the girls that say this are party girls. So they are full of it. But there are real sapiosexuals out there. They tend to be nerds.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
The females I knew who used the term thought projected intelligence was being a smart ass. They really hated those Intelligent types. But the sapiosexual monicre makes them sound so much more refined than her h0e peers.
mrgoodstuff
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Mmm, not sure... The ones I knew where FINE engineer and similar females. A physically dominant male with no to low intelligence would be a turn off. Each thing he says and does would cause her to perceive him lower and lower and lower. However if your voice and energy projects INTELLIGENCE they get turned on more and more, even sexually.
Smart,funny,and dominant,a winning combination..
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
EyeBRollin
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It's something women desire on paper, which usually has nothing to do with what they actually respond to emotionally.
mrgoodstuff
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Actually your right! One of my engineers tried to do it and they played a bunch of games on her to level things. She learned!
Mike32ct
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Outside of work, I completely "dumb myself down." I don't act like an intellectual at all. It's a habit of mine based on the assumption that most people, especially women, only want to fluff talk.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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Ok I've actually seen this before. If every guy around her is just another macho idiot who's pretty smooth but keeps trying to get her drunk all the time because he wants to get in her pants, then yeah she is gonna be attracted to that one guy who is DIFFERENT from the rest, the one guy who actually KNOWS what the heck he's talking about when you have an actual conversation with him. However, if every guy around is just a normal dude, then you bet your ass that she's gonna be sleeping with the hunk. All you have to do is be different from most guys. Just stand out from them. Be that one flavor of man that she hasn't tasted yet.
SmooveMooves
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Its bullshít. A steaming hot pile. The phrase Sapiosexual in the way that women like to label themselves means that she cannot be sexually attracted to a man unless he stimulates her intellectually.
Before a woman speaks to you she has no way of knowing how intellectually stimulating you are. For a woman to give you the time of day she has to already find you attractive on some base level. Meaning that intellect is miniscule in her decision to be down to fūck.
My point being that being a smart guy or having an interesting perspective will not get you laid. You still need to present the best you by optimizing your appearance.
Before a woman speaks to you she has no way of knowing how intellectually stimulating you are. For a woman to give you the time of day she has to already find you attractive on some base level. Meaning that intellect is miniscule in her decision to be down to fūck.
My point being that being a smart guy or having an interesting perspective will not get you laid. You still need to present the best you by optimizing your appearance.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
RichardTheFrog
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Also, what a girl considers mentally stimulating could be astrology, reality TV, or whatever other stupid **** goes on in their hamster brains.
devilkingx2
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never once met a woman who cared about intelligence, I'm vastly smarter than most (though I have little to show for it) and apparently you can hear it from the way I speak (I've been told), but no girl has ever given a sh!t about that really.
I have however known at least one woman calling herself sapiosexual a long time ago, while I had no chance to test her on how true that was, I think every man alive can name 1,000 women who labelled themselves XYZ inaccurately (lesbians with boyfriends, bi chicks who only have interest in guys or only only ever want girls, straight girls who've had sex with more girls than guys, etc. are all things I've personally seen), so I wouldn't put much stock in it til she proves it
I have however known at least one woman calling herself sapiosexual a long time ago, while I had no chance to test her on how true that was, I think every man alive can name 1,000 women who labelled themselves XYZ inaccurately (lesbians with boyfriends, bi chicks who only have interest in guys or only only ever want girls, straight girls who've had sex with more girls than guys, etc. are all things I've personally seen), so I wouldn't put much stock in it til she proves it
RichardTheFrog
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Maybe your transcended it BECAUSE you were 17. I used to have girls offer me a place to stay for free as a homeless drug addict when I was 22. But that's when I was 22.
RichardTheFrog
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These are the contents of a female brain. I wouldn't take anything they say too seriously.
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I don't know. I've always been pretty smart, but that didn't help me when I lacked social skills. But when I learned that and applied my general intelligence I became really sharp in social situations. Before that I had a lot of trouble socially and I did in fact attribute that to my intelligence, actually wishing I'd be dumber because everyone smashing pussy didn't know a fraction of the stuff I did. I have an IQ of 132, that makes me among the 2% most intelligent people on the planet. I certainly did find a way to apply problem solving techniques to social situations in the end, I just had to learn socializing first...
I don't think being a nerd by itself is enough, unless your nerd subject is social dynamics. Good example being Owen from RSD, definitely a nerd on that subject and very successful at it. General intelligence won't make you attractive unless you can apply it correctly to gain dominance, which is what turns most women on. So I'd say they're not really bullshitting, but they are (as usual) not being very clear about what they actually want.
I don't think being a nerd by itself is enough, unless your nerd subject is social dynamics. Good example being Owen from RSD, definitely a nerd on that subject and very successful at it. General intelligence won't make you attractive unless you can apply it correctly to gain dominance, which is what turns most women on. So I'd say they're not really bullshitting, but they are (as usual) not being very clear about what they actually want.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
ChristopherColumbus
Master Don Juan
Be witty, but do not be boringly intellectual. Unless you want to attract a feminist.