"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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toasttopper1879

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Girlfriend and me had a argue.Us had been on the drink so the row was the usual bollox over nothing as it usually is after a drink.Of course she was being bratty so I stood my ground.
Next morn as her apology rolled out she wanted sex.She thought offer sex,I'd forget etc.I knocked her advance back and told her I did'nt want sex.
Now shes took a huge huff.Says she cant believe I've said no,its never been said before and gawd knos what else.
So did I do the right thing by refusing sex cos I didnt think she'd earnt it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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blinkwatt

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Yeah bro your keeping it interesting! She expecting it,you "shocked and awed her",which is a good thing. Just don't be a tease like this all the time. The best thing that you could do now is suprise her with sex in the most unlikely time,but then again she could pull what you did to her and say "no" to sex.
 

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shes already told me I'm on a sex ban now.her attempt to get the power back.not sure if i should let her control this one as its her ego i'll be crushing.
 

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Good one! Never let a woman use sex to control you. It's a mutual pleasure, so this "sex ban" is to her own detriment. Just continue like it doesn't bother you.
 

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A sex ban? :crackup: Put her on a relationship with you ban!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Trapper

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cool, for the first time... but never miss the second shot.
 

Desdinova

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shes already told me I'm on a sex ban now.her attempt to get the power back.
Oh boy. Have fun with that one! Once a woman has the power in the relationship, they don't want to give it up. The best way to get the power in the relationship is to never give it to her.

You may want to communicate to her that you don't need sex. Let her know until she lets you have the pvssy back, you're going to enjoy a wild, nightly session of masturbation. Remember, nobody knows how to turn you on better than yourself! She may have power over her pvssy, but she can't have power over your d1ck.

You do realize that this power struggle could end your relationship, correct?
 

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blinkwatt said:
Yeah bro your keeping it interesting! She expecting it,you "shocked and awed her",which is a good thing.
This is definitely NOT a good thing. Its the beginning of the end.




PIMP
 

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You denied sex for the right reason (her not earning it). But now she said you're on a sex ban and I didn't read anything that you did after that. Sex ban? By not throwing her to the fan she's got power right now. It's her game, her rules right now.

End this, and learn from your mistakes, why did she feel comfortable enough to throw such an tiranian action like a sex ban? Your mistake can have been from your loss in power in the relationship, or the mistake of picking her as your partner.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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toasttopper1879

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The sex ban lasted a day lol.We tease and test each other back and forth all the time.It seems to keep the chase alive all the time even when in reality its long gone.Its just how we like it maybe.
Pendo she feels comfy enough to say this as we both know its only a game and in jest.Theres no power struggle in a relationship.Of course she knows I'm the man,I take the lead and likewise she can use her girly charms to show her submissive side.Be a mistake to end the relationship as it seems to work for us.
 

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so u were drinking, and its the first time and you said no. That is admirable, and she appreciates it...I know that situation. Nothing bad will come from what you did, unless she is a slut.
 
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