"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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toasttopper1879

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Girlfriend and me had a argue.Us had been on the drink so the row was the usual bollox over nothing as it usually is after a drink.Of course she was being bratty so I stood my ground.
Next morn as her apology rolled out she wanted sex.She thought offer sex,I'd forget etc.I knocked her advance back and told her I did'nt want sex.
Now shes took a huge huff.Says she cant believe I've said no,its never been said before and gawd knos what else.
So did I do the right thing by refusing sex cos I didnt think she'd earnt it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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blinkwatt

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Yeah bro your keeping it interesting! She expecting it,you "shocked and awed her",which is a good thing. Just don't be a tease like this all the time. The best thing that you could do now is suprise her with sex in the most unlikely time,but then again she could pull what you did to her and say "no" to sex.
 

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shes already told me I'm on a sex ban now.her attempt to get the power back.not sure if i should let her control this one as its her ego i'll be crushing.
 

Jariel

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Good one! Never let a woman use sex to control you. It's a mutual pleasure, so this "sex ban" is to her own detriment. Just continue like it doesn't bother you.
 

ValleyDJing

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A sex ban? :crackup: Put her on a relationship with you ban!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Trapper

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cool, for the first time... but never miss the second shot.
 

Desdinova

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shes already told me I'm on a sex ban now.her attempt to get the power back.
Oh boy. Have fun with that one! Once a woman has the power in the relationship, they don't want to give it up. The best way to get the power in the relationship is to never give it to her.

You may want to communicate to her that you don't need sex. Let her know until she lets you have the pvssy back, you're going to enjoy a wild, nightly session of masturbation. Remember, nobody knows how to turn you on better than yourself! She may have power over her pvssy, but she can't have power over your d1ck.

You do realize that this power struggle could end your relationship, correct?
 

Pimp-sicle

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blinkwatt said:
Yeah bro your keeping it interesting! She expecting it,you "shocked and awed her",which is a good thing.
This is definitely NOT a good thing. Its the beginning of the end.




PIMP
 

SamePendo

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You denied sex for the right reason (her not earning it). But now she said you're on a sex ban and I didn't read anything that you did after that. Sex ban? By not throwing her to the fan she's got power right now. It's her game, her rules right now.

End this, and learn from your mistakes, why did she feel comfortable enough to throw such an tiranian action like a sex ban? Your mistake can have been from your loss in power in the relationship, or the mistake of picking her as your partner.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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toasttopper1879

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The sex ban lasted a day lol.We tease and test each other back and forth all the time.It seems to keep the chase alive all the time even when in reality its long gone.Its just how we like it maybe.
Pendo she feels comfy enough to say this as we both know its only a game and in jest.Theres no power struggle in a relationship.Of course she knows I'm the man,I take the lead and likewise she can use her girly charms to show her submissive side.Be a mistake to end the relationship as it seems to work for us.
 

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so u were drinking, and its the first time and you said no. That is admirable, and she appreciates it...I know that situation. Nothing bad will come from what you did, unless she is a slut.
 
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