"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Sad girls and making them happy

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k look dawgs, i see a girl that is usually all jolly and happy and whatnot, whenever i see a girl that looks like she is having the worst day of their lives I usually really dont know what to say to them, and if i dont say anything, well theyll just end up thinking ur a **** that only cares about himself, believe me i know, and its not something girls like. soooooo, what do i say ?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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talk to her about it. ask her what the problem is and if ther is anything you can do to make her feel better i guess. just comfort her and hug her.
 

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First off, not everyone has to like you.
Second off, there's lots of drama-queen b!tches who just implode at the first opportunity and have the ƒucking niagara falls coming down their faces because they don't get enough attention in their normal AW ways.

Now, if you see a chick who seems seriously sad and you barely her (classmate, or just a familiar face you've never spoken to) a simple "you okay?" said nonchalantly works best, they'll give you a vibe of whether they want to talk to you or not. Although the vibe should be selfevident usually. If its a friend I'd definitely talk but remember not to come overbearing.
 

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First off, not everyone has to like you.
Second off, there's lots of drama-queen b!tches who just implode at the first opportunity and have the ƒucking niagara falls coming down their faces because they don't get enough attention in their normal AW ways.

Now, if you see a chick who seems seriously sad and you barely her (classmate, or just a familiar face you've never spoken to) a simple "you okay?" said nonchalantly works best, they'll give you a vibe of whether they want to talk to you or not. Although the vibe should be selfevident usually. If its a friend I'd definitely talk but remember not to come overbearing.
 

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First off, not everyone has to like you.
Second off, there's lots of drama-queen b!tches who just implode at the first opportunity and have the ƒucking niagara falls coming down their faces because they don't get enough attention in their normal AW ways.

Now, if you see a chick who seems seriously sad and you barely her (classmate, or just a familiar face you've never spoken to) a simple "you okay?" said nonchalantly works best, they'll give you a vibe of whether they want to talk to you or not. Although the vibe should be selfevident usually. If its a friend I'd definitely talk but remember not to come overbearing.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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MVPlaya

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First off, not everyone has to like you.
Second off, there's lots of drama-queen b!tches who just implode at the first opportunity and have the ƒucking niagara falls coming down their faces because they don't get enough attention in their normal AW ways.

Now, if you see a chick who seems seriously sad and you barely know her (classmate, or just a familiar face you've never spoken to) a simple "you okay?" said nonchalantly works best, they'll give you a vibe of whether they want to talk to you or not. Although the vibe should be selfevident usually. If its a friend I'd definitely talk but remember not to come over as overbearing.
 

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Ok, I posted an article on this before under an old name (I don't recall which one off-hand).

When you see a girl that's sad or upset, STAY AWAY!

Psychologically, if you always talk to a girl when she's upset, she begins to associate you with her feeling upset! This is what is called a NEGATIVE ASSOCIATION.

What you need to do, is create a POSITIVE ASSOCIATION! You do this by being with her when she is happy and cheerful. When you make this connection, whenever you are around, she will automatically (subconciously) become happier. Everyone likes to be happy, so she'll be around you more (or at least want to).

So, stay away from her when she's down.
 

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did sumthn similar today..

my friend was having the worst day of her life. i dont really find her THAT hot but she's ok.
she was the one who started talking to me bout stuff. actually, she SMSed me. since i was being more of a friend considering im not really interested, i ended up saying the 'me too' and 'i feel that way sometimes' stuff.
and now im getting a free dinner for being there for her! haha :D
 

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Originally posted by average joe2003
talk to her about it. ask her what the problem is and if ther is anything you can do to make her feel better i guess. just comfort her and hug her.
Talk about becoming an emotional tampon...:rolleyes:
 

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It sounds like you just want approval from others. Wanting approval from others will hurt your efforts of becoming a DJ. If you don't care about how a person feels then **** it. If you do then help in ways you deem appropriate.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Don't worry about not appearing masculine.


I'd say talk to her, ask her what's going on, whatever.

You're not going to be marrying her - so you should take advantage of this opportunity you've got, and get some experience in communicating with women.

Learn how they feel. It will come in extremely handy, especially when you get into a serious relationship - knowing how to effectively communicate with your women is CRUCIAL. So, you might as well gain that experience now, rather than learning through some painful experience:).
 

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Stear clear of her!! The quickest way to become a friend is to listen to all her problems and be a shoulder to cry on. The quickest. If you are interested in hitting that sometime in the future, stay away. She'll be alright in a couple of days. Talk to her when she's having fun.
 
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