"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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s this guy a player -writtein by a girl"

joe45

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i now this guy right, classmate but hes friendly like with every girl always saying hello to them, and talking to them, smiling too. he does this with like 5 other girls and me too. he started askin me what other classes i was goin to take, how i was doin in the course, said what i do on the weekend, and after a few chats he asked for my msn addy"can i have ur msn addy, we can chat sometime -he brings out his notepad" he also did this with the oother girls too. he always sayin hello to these certain girls, walking with em, how their weekends was and .... small talk stuff
he goes up to these girls right after class after the class is finishes and goes and start talking to them.hi how are you, how are u doin in the course, my name is Sam what is urs, talks about the courses he takes .. typical small talk , but he does it with other girls too,

oh ya and i see him checking out girls too-with the corner of his eye. when i was talking with him and walking along he looks at me first to see if i am looking at what he is eyeing and then he check out these other girls who are at another distant, and he sometimes has this smirk kind of smile.
i seen him checking other girls butts too as they walk pass him in the hallway

ok the question is =-is he a player, what is the guy -a player, jsut freindly,

i see him turning around as girls pass by check out their butts, and he says something in his mouth like "umm ya" with this wicked weird smile. he looks both ways to make sure no one is seeing before he does it, and if the one time i was with him he checked otu this girl with the corner of his eye, he first sees my eyes first then he does the checking out-sneaky

hes always saying hello to me wwhen he sees me, and says what u did last week, and if u studied yet. he told me he was in another college before taking computers but didn't like what he was taking...etc stuff about himself.... and his part time job how slow it is and that he takes extra minutes for breaks ehhe
while the class we had togther, everyone left , and he waited outside class for me, walked me outside the school. just small talking , he said he could borrow the text for the course i was taking since he took that course before alredy.
is this guy playerish
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Bryce556

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i wish i could even get to the step of that guy, he dosent seem so smooth but at least he can talk to girl and even ones he dosent know:(
 

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Is the guy new? because if he is new at your school maybe he is trying to make friends. What difference does it make if he flirts with other girls? Unless you like him??

Simple answer: He seems like a slut..*cough* I mean player..:whistle:
 

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I think it's important to distinguish the definition of the term "PLAYER" with just a Man that is ATTRACTED to WOMEN.

In one case, the PLAYER is dishonest.

In the other, the MAN is HONEST.


The term "player" came about to describe men who want to date several women at the same time, yet pretends to be only dating the one he's with at the moment. In other words, he keeps his affairs a secret. In fact, he often uses phony romance and the word "love" disingenuinely.

the "Man" on the other hand, knows it is natural to be attracted to women. MANY Women.
He Does not apologize for being attracted to women. He does not keep this a secret, and is not ashamed of the fact.

He does NOT "hide" the fact that he is attracted to many women, and wishes to date many women.

Knows he is a free man, and can look at any woman and talk to any woman he wants to especially if he is not in an exclusive LTR.
He does not apologize for his sexuality. Or being sexual.
Is perfectly comfortable with himself, and flirting with other women.

He Knows it is perfectly natural to interact with women, and be attracted to them.
He is also NOT DESPERATE. So if he meets a woman whom does not wish to date him BECAUSE he "dates other women". he lets her go and moves on.

He has no FEAR of "losing" Women.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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