"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Rusty guy trying to return to the game

ZhaoYun

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Recently I just got out of an LTR. Things were great, I just found myself lusting over so many women that I felt it wasn't fair to the woman I was with to continue. So I broke things off.

Anyways, it's been a while since I've been on the grind with women so I'm kind of rusty. So far I'm happy with my success tho

I currently have 2 women that I see and trying to hook a third. The number she gave to me is a text only phone, but I see her at least once a week. I've been casually flirting with her for a few days in person. I took her home on Tuesday and when I dropped her off we had a nice convo

Me: So you're not going to invite me in?
Her: Well, you can come in but I have work to do. Don't you have to get something to eat? (I told her earlier had to meet up with some friends for lunch)
Me: Ah yeah - some other time ..soon then right. (I didn't say it like a question)
Her: Yeah just hit me up

When I got her number I always call to confirm. Surprisingly she sent me a text the same day asking a question she'd already asked me earlier. I thought that means she was very interested. So Thursday I let my persistance continue. In person I asked to get together tomorrow with a time and she countered, but seemed kind of hesitant. I was doing this in class so she probably just didn't want her business on blast. Plus we had a test coming up so I let it slide. After class I text her asking her about the test and we exchanged basic fluff about that until...

Me: So what time do you have class tomorrow?
Her: I don't
Me: I'd like to keep you company then
Her: Here? In a apt of females
Me: So you want me all to yourself then? Greedy!
Her: Um no. I do have a bf
Me: That's cool. I didn't say anything about a relationship I just want to get to know you better.
Her: Ok. you can chill in the livin room

Now since I've been out of the game for so long, I have no idea what to do here. I know this chick likes me, I'm just having a hard time deciding whether or not to go over there, take her somewhere else or just not go at all. I don't want anything serious with her - just some fun (multiple times if possible).

Also, I don't know how to fully interpret our text convo. I let my intentions be known, yet she's still down to see me. Any help would be appreciated..
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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eaglez1177

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Dude it doesnt really sound like shes interested....and plus shes got a boyfriend...thats gonna make things A LOT harder for you. Just next her.
 

ZhaoYun

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so if she wasn't interested why would she invite me over anyway?

Also, she didn't bother to mention the bf until I tried to be sarcastic with her which was my mistake. She's one of those that doesn't like sarcasm apparently.

I dunno, think I'm gonna go for it anyway. Also I'm not surprised there's not many responses to this because:

1) Maybe the post was too long and boring

2) Maybe I don't need advice afterall and continue to do my thing and eventually win.

Figures...
 

GuanYu

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Actually doesn't sound like you're rusty at all bro. You're doing everything right from what I can see. You're letting your intentions be known immediately and even tho she hit you with the bf card she still doesn't mind if you come over. Wonder what that could mean?

Something is definitely up though dude. Most girls that are happy with their bf's will immediately bring him up once you let your intentions be known. She didn't. Maybe you'll just have to work a bit extra to get her but I think it's doable.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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ZhaoYun

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I didn't get up with her today since I was busy with other stuff. I'll just play things smooth and occasionally flirt with her. If an opportunity presents itself great, if not no big deal. I think this chicks into me though.
 
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