suavesuave
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let us know if u close the deal.
cause i know they will all flake.
cause i know they will all flake.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
rushing dude 123 said:Keys for me to reduce some flaking though wud b:
1. LISTEN!!!!!!!!!, AMMO FOR THE PHONE CALL AND YES REMEMBERING WHICH ONE IS HER IS ALSO GOOD.
lol can't argue with that. Wait til a girl calls you and says "Guess who" and too many names come to your head to say one out loud. Once your plates are up and spinning you will realize why girls flake as much as they do...
2. Try set up date on first phone call, even if there r some complications like not knowing where she lives and needing to look it up. Solutions: ask her where she lives when u meet her or if not when u call her b near computer so u can look it up.
Striking while the iron is hot is important, yes. If you guys really clicked then the sooner the day 2 the better. However, it will weed out the chicks who don't have high interest quickly. I remember getting #s from chicks with not so high interest and I told myself "If I can just get the day two I can work my magic and get her interest sky high" so i would push for day 2s on the first phone call and of course these chicks would decline or agree and end up flaking. My experiences has taught me to hold back and build a better connection with girls with average interest levels long distance instead of forcing a day 2 to get there
3. Genuine, if u think shes being rude, **** her call her up on her **** instead of just letting it slide by.
If this alligns with your end goal then I agree. For me, with most girls, I just end up wanting something short-term so if her thinking she is better than me gets me what I want, it's no skin off my back. Sometimes being confrontational only makes the road harder (but sometimes calling someone on their sh!t makes them changes frames as well)
4. If u don't get through, don't wait another two days to call her, just text her and move on. No need to waste my time.
5. Call in 2-3 days.
I'd call earlier if I:
- had a connection
- she is laidback
- knew of something interesting happenning that she can tag along to.
6. Just text date if u can't get through on phone "enough talk, what u doing thursday"
Texting after getting digits had a low success rate when i tried it. Who knows though, you might fare better. IME, You want her to hear your voice and remember what a fun time you guys had when you met and the funny stuff you said and how you made her laugh. One sentence of text doesn't convey this for me
7. If texting don't try remind her who u r in the text, subtly by giving her few hints. Just say "aw u missed my call to bad, get back to me when u can and for now u can just call me mysterious guy" It always has got responses all the time i tried it.
I usually call and if they don't respond I call a couple days later and if still no response then NEXT. They can be in a sh!tty mood one day and screen all their calls or w/e.
8. Don't neglect, some girls i am to busy for and i leave a huge gap till i ask them out again, maybe just stay in touch ever so often if ur in a busy period.
9. Phone call after date, especially night ones to make sure they get home
Awwwwwww
10. Assume sale, they gave u there number, why wud they give it to u if they were not interested at all?...
Word, once you get pessimistic, it will kill your game.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.