suavesuave
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let us know if u close the deal.
cause i know they will all flake.
cause i know they will all flake.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
rushing dude 123 said:Keys for me to reduce some flaking though wud b:
1. LISTEN!!!!!!!!!, AMMO FOR THE PHONE CALL AND YES REMEMBERING WHICH ONE IS HER IS ALSO GOOD.
lol can't argue with that. Wait til a girl calls you and says "Guess who" and too many names come to your head to say one out loud. Once your plates are up and spinning you will realize why girls flake as much as they do...
2. Try set up date on first phone call, even if there r some complications like not knowing where she lives and needing to look it up. Solutions: ask her where she lives when u meet her or if not when u call her b near computer so u can look it up.
Striking while the iron is hot is important, yes. If you guys really clicked then the sooner the day 2 the better. However, it will weed out the chicks who don't have high interest quickly. I remember getting #s from chicks with not so high interest and I told myself "If I can just get the day two I can work my magic and get her interest sky high" so i would push for day 2s on the first phone call and of course these chicks would decline or agree and end up flaking. My experiences has taught me to hold back and build a better connection with girls with average interest levels long distance instead of forcing a day 2 to get there
3. Genuine, if u think shes being rude, **** her call her up on her **** instead of just letting it slide by.
If this alligns with your end goal then I agree. For me, with most girls, I just end up wanting something short-term so if her thinking she is better than me gets me what I want, it's no skin off my back. Sometimes being confrontational only makes the road harder (but sometimes calling someone on their sh!t makes them changes frames as well)
4. If u don't get through, don't wait another two days to call her, just text her and move on. No need to waste my time.
5. Call in 2-3 days.
I'd call earlier if I:
- had a connection
- she is laidback
- knew of something interesting happenning that she can tag along to.
6. Just text date if u can't get through on phone "enough talk, what u doing thursday"
Texting after getting digits had a low success rate when i tried it. Who knows though, you might fare better. IME, You want her to hear your voice and remember what a fun time you guys had when you met and the funny stuff you said and how you made her laugh. One sentence of text doesn't convey this for me
7. If texting don't try remind her who u r in the text, subtly by giving her few hints. Just say "aw u missed my call to bad, get back to me when u can and for now u can just call me mysterious guy" It always has got responses all the time i tried it.
I usually call and if they don't respond I call a couple days later and if still no response then NEXT. They can be in a sh!tty mood one day and screen all their calls or w/e.
8. Don't neglect, some girls i am to busy for and i leave a huge gap till i ask them out again, maybe just stay in touch ever so often if ur in a busy period.
9. Phone call after date, especially night ones to make sure they get home
Awwwwwww
10. Assume sale, they gave u there number, why wud they give it to u if they were not interested at all?...
Word, once you get pessimistic, it will kill your game.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.