"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Rotterdam area

snowdog

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Anyone from around there feeling like going into the field with me? It would be cool to go out with someone I don't know, because being around friends doesn't really help my game.

I'm good at approaching, I'll approach any girl without thinking twice about it. The closing part is where I still have some trouble. I'm looking for someone who is at my level or better.

Just drop a reply, I'll keep watching this thread every now and then.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I'm in Schiedam now and again every 4months - which is like 15-20 mins to Rotterdam.

Can you give me a downplay on how the woman act towards being approached in your city?

I've been here countless times and gathered that, if you do not know them first-hand, they're quite stubborn and don't give it up easy to foreigners (US and UK).

Especially harder, as many of them can't speak and write English to well even tho apparently that is there 2nd language after Dutch.

Alot of guys when venturing out here think Amsterdam and the Red Light District (hookers) is Netherland's main centre for women, just because it is the capital. But I think, personally Rotterdam/ Eindhoven/ Haugue etc is Europe's best kept secret - I've seen the prettiest women from there of all races (something in the water), especially if you have been to Zomercarnaval.
 

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To me, Rotterdam is hard compared to Amsterdam. Really hip/high class stuff, unless you go to a student-type bar. There are a couple of techno-clubs. If you're into that you should check out the Catwalk. If you like the vibe, it's a good place to be. If you're into more exotic girls, Rotterdam is a good place for you. The center is really multi-culti compared to other cities.

Eindhoven, the Hague and ESPECIALLY Utrecht are better for going out in my book. More college people there, which means the general education level is higher; which means less idiots and more interesting people (for me at least).

But almost everyone speaks English. The white ones anyway.
 

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Yeah I got the drift whenever I'm in Rotterdam.

Your city has the MOST beautiful women I've seen as far, hands down. Approaching for me was kinda hard, as I'd have to talk really slow and pronounce my words abit higher.

I only usually go Techno bars when in amsterdam, but when I'm in Rotterdam I hit the House/ Beach Club side of things. It was vertually impossible to even get a chick to stand and talk with me and my buddies let alone get a number.

I didn't really see much guys nailing any chicks, everybody seems like they're doing there own thing. Girls in groups all wandering off, guys doing practically nothing - this is day game tho, probably different in club enviroment.

I hear Amsterdam is the party city, Rotterdam is the working city and Haugue - I cant remember what some random guy was telling me about that.

How can I score (interact, approach, get interested) with those Antillean/ Spanish and Mulatto girls out there? - as they where the majority of the prettiest girls I observed?

And whats with the gay bottom-lip piercing? Everybody under 25 has it???
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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