You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
If you have bad posture/lack of shoulder flexibility/etc, work on that first before doing behind neck presses.Throttle said:never bring overhead presses behind your head
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
you serious?mrRuckus said:Don't flat bench
yes, the main rotator cuff killer is the flat bench press, the beach boy's favourite.int3l said:you serious?
I don't bench. Did close grip bench press once this year. Overhead Press three times a week the rest of the time.int3l said:you serious?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Never realized that...guess I'll use flat dumbell presses nowWarboss Alex said:yes, the main rotator cuff killer is the flat bench press, the beach boy's favourite.
if you can bench like a powerlifter, do so.. otherwise avoid flat barbell bench.
stronglifts said:Training the rotator cuff is something from the past. All articles on t-nation advising you to train the rotator cuff should be deleted. If you contact the authors (i'm thinking at eric cressey, mike robertson, etc), they will tell you they do not agree anymore with training the rotator cuff.
Rotator cuff is where the pain is felt. The cause of the pain is not the rotator cuff. It's the scapula (shoulder blade). Training the rotator cuff is like having a flat tyre & keep pumping air instead of just fixing the hole.
http://www.charlespoliquin.com/members/modules.php?name=News&file=article&sid=284 said:3. Weak scapulae retractors. Scapulae retraction, which involves pulling the shoulder blades back, is performed by such muscles as the rhomboids and trapezius. These muscles are often poorly developed because they are not the showy muscles that can readily be seen while standing in front of a mirror.
The scapulae retractors are often weak in swimmers, or rather, relatively weak in comparison to their pectoral and anterior deltoid muscles. The result of this structural imbalance is a slumping, forward head posture that causes shoulder impingement, which can impair a swimmer’s performance in their sport, especially at the higher levels of competition. Likewise, although gymnasts often have tremendously developed lats, weakness in the rhomboids and mid-trapezius causes them to often display rounded shoulders that would be more appropriate in a zombie movie than on a balance beam.
One of the most effective exercises for developing the scapulae retractors is the seated cable row. However, rather than using a pulley handle and pulling the weight to the waist, for working the scapulae retractors I like to use a rope and have the athlete pull the bar towards the throat, with elbows high. This exercise is illustrated in my book The German Body Comp Program.
4. Weak external rotators. The two most important muscles that are involved in externally rotating the shoulders are the teres minor and the infraspinatus. These muscles originate on the scapula and insert on the humerus, and are two of the four muscles collectively known as the rotator cuff.
Although these muscles are relatively small, they are important for stabilizing the shoulder and therefore keeping the athlete healthy. Adam Nelson, two-time Olympic silver medalist in the shot put, is an example of an elite athlete who neglected his rotator cuff development. One exercise he could not do because it caused so much pain was the power snatch. After several weeks of performing external rotator cuff work I prescribed, he power snatched 286 pounds for 3 reps. In fact, working these muscles also helped his pressing strength, because after six months of training he increased his incline bench press, using a 3-inch-thick bar, from 285 pounds to 525!
not better, and possibly worse, since you can bring the dumbbells down lower than your chest, depending on your form (i see a lot of guys get real sloppy trying to put up big dumbbells--now who's the dumbbell?).Kerpal said:Wait, so flat bench press is bad for the rotator cuffs? What if you use dumbbells?
hey so if i already have rotator cuff tendonitis, can i still do incline press?stronglifts said:Do 1x Overhead Press session for every Bench Press session and 1 row session for every bench press session.
So if you bench press 6x/month, you should overhead press 6x a month & row 6x a month. This will keep your shoulder gridle balanced.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Egoscue is great, time consuming, but great. If you have postural problems (slouching shoulders), you really need to something about it. Most likely you'll get injured one day, especially if you train hard. If you wouldn't train, you'd get problems 20y from now for sure.mrRuckus said:Hmm, oh really?
I've been doing both. My main goal overall is posture improvement. I have that damn thing where my gut sticks out even at low bf% and my shoulders slump so i've started to do things that are supposed to improve those (even ordered that Egoscue book you mention on your page for like $3 from amazon).
I guess i have no idea if rotator cuff work is useful or not then. Yet another one of those things where this is no answer since everyone says something different. I was mostly going from this:
I notice that your t-nation article has the face pull exercise in there too.
tendinitis = inflammation. Take care of your inflammation before loading that tendon again.Crazy Asian said:hey so if i already have rotator cuff tendonitis, can i still do incline press?
WBA, please explain what he is talking aboutThrottle said:not better, and possibly worse, since you can bring the dumbbells down lower than your chest, depending on your form (i see a lot of guys get real sloppy trying to put up big dumbbells--now who's the dumbbell?).
investigate WBA's powerlifting-form flat bench press (shoulder blades back and together, back arched, etc.)