Franky Four Fingers
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Is romance weakness in the DJ paradigm?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Romance = Weakness?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
Depends how you define romance and the situation.
KontrollerX
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If you get into a relationship with a chick that is also looking to be in a relationship and she seems to genuinely like and want romantic type of things you reward her with this when she does good things for you but pull away when she does things that you don't like.
You never under pain of death however try romance or any of that sh!t with your typical late teens, early to mid twenties party slvt hookup buddies though.
Those chicks are there to relieve yourself with and to pump em and dump em and really thats all that they want and what makes them hot for you anyway.
Where guys that come here get into trouble is when they become dependent on one of these party slvts and try to turn a h0 into a housewife.
That is just not happening.
So if you are looking for a serious relationship where you can be romantic you have to filter out chicks that are not looking for romance and basically just want a guy to treat them like trash ie pull their hair and smack their ass while having sex and not call them for a month afterwards if ever again.
You can find what a chick's relationship goals are and what kind of person she is and how she will treat you by what she says to you in the beginning of the relationship about how she treated, interacted with and views men in general.
In anycase to more directly answer your question I don't think romance is a weakness for DJ's. In fact I think it is the most non and anti DJ thing that a guy can do unless of course you are simply using it as a tool to get laid and haven't invested any genuine emotion behind it. As in my opinion a DJ is about getting laid as often as possible with zero committment. To me a guy who doesn't view life this way is not a DJ.
Doesn't mean he's an AFC either but I think being a DJ is all about getting laid and nothing else and if thats not what you are all about if you want to go the committed relationship route you are just not a DJ.
You can benefit and learn from DJ teachings to be successful and even have successful relationships but in my mind thats not what this site was ever supposed to be about though many great posters myself included (in the past) have over complicated the DJ term including self improvement and things like relationships under its meaning.
You never under pain of death however try romance or any of that sh!t with your typical late teens, early to mid twenties party slvt hookup buddies though.
Those chicks are there to relieve yourself with and to pump em and dump em and really thats all that they want and what makes them hot for you anyway.
Where guys that come here get into trouble is when they become dependent on one of these party slvts and try to turn a h0 into a housewife.
That is just not happening.
So if you are looking for a serious relationship where you can be romantic you have to filter out chicks that are not looking for romance and basically just want a guy to treat them like trash ie pull their hair and smack their ass while having sex and not call them for a month afterwards if ever again.
You can find what a chick's relationship goals are and what kind of person she is and how she will treat you by what she says to you in the beginning of the relationship about how she treated, interacted with and views men in general.
In anycase to more directly answer your question I don't think romance is a weakness for DJ's. In fact I think it is the most non and anti DJ thing that a guy can do unless of course you are simply using it as a tool to get laid and haven't invested any genuine emotion behind it. As in my opinion a DJ is about getting laid as often as possible with zero committment. To me a guy who doesn't view life this way is not a DJ.
Doesn't mean he's an AFC either but I think being a DJ is all about getting laid and nothing else and if thats not what you are all about if you want to go the committed relationship route you are just not a DJ.
You can benefit and learn from DJ teachings to be successful and even have successful relationships but in my mind thats not what this site was ever supposed to be about though many great posters myself included (in the past) have over complicated the DJ term including self improvement and things like relationships under its meaning.
Quiksilver
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Romance is neither here nor there when discussing strength/weakness.
People who are unhappy with themselves, who are desperate and are 'AFCs' can be romantic. Weakness.
People who are happy and successful with women can also be romantic. Strength.
When discussing this topic, the journey towards romance and how you arrive at it matter most.
People who are unhappy with themselves, who are desperate and are 'AFCs' can be romantic. Weakness.
People who are happy and successful with women can also be romantic. Strength.
When discussing this topic, the journey towards romance and how you arrive at it matter most.
Well said.Quiksilver said:Romance is neither here nor there when discussing strength/weakness.
People who are unhappy with themselves, who are desperate and are 'AFCs' can be romantic. Weakness.
People who are happy and successful with women can also be romantic. Strength.
When discussing this topic, the journey towards romance and how you arrive at it matter most.
Romantic gestures are done by stalkers, AFCs and DJs. It's who you are and how you do it.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.