Franky Four Fingers
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Is romance weakness in the DJ paradigm?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Romance = Weakness?
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
I.A.F.Y.B.
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Depends how you define romance and the situation.
KontrollerX
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If you get into a relationship with a chick that is also looking to be in a relationship and she seems to genuinely like and want romantic type of things you reward her with this when she does good things for you but pull away when she does things that you don't like.
You never under pain of death however try romance or any of that sh!t with your typical late teens, early to mid twenties party slvt hookup buddies though.
Those chicks are there to relieve yourself with and to pump em and dump em and really thats all that they want and what makes them hot for you anyway.
Where guys that come here get into trouble is when they become dependent on one of these party slvts and try to turn a h0 into a housewife.
That is just not happening.
So if you are looking for a serious relationship where you can be romantic you have to filter out chicks that are not looking for romance and basically just want a guy to treat them like trash ie pull their hair and smack their ass while having sex and not call them for a month afterwards if ever again.
You can find what a chick's relationship goals are and what kind of person she is and how she will treat you by what she says to you in the beginning of the relationship about how she treated, interacted with and views men in general.
In anycase to more directly answer your question I don't think romance is a weakness for DJ's. In fact I think it is the most non and anti DJ thing that a guy can do unless of course you are simply using it as a tool to get laid and haven't invested any genuine emotion behind it. As in my opinion a DJ is about getting laid as often as possible with zero committment. To me a guy who doesn't view life this way is not a DJ.
Doesn't mean he's an AFC either but I think being a DJ is all about getting laid and nothing else and if thats not what you are all about if you want to go the committed relationship route you are just not a DJ.
You can benefit and learn from DJ teachings to be successful and even have successful relationships but in my mind thats not what this site was ever supposed to be about though many great posters myself included (in the past) have over complicated the DJ term including self improvement and things like relationships under its meaning.
You never under pain of death however try romance or any of that sh!t with your typical late teens, early to mid twenties party slvt hookup buddies though.
Those chicks are there to relieve yourself with and to pump em and dump em and really thats all that they want and what makes them hot for you anyway.
Where guys that come here get into trouble is when they become dependent on one of these party slvts and try to turn a h0 into a housewife.
That is just not happening.
So if you are looking for a serious relationship where you can be romantic you have to filter out chicks that are not looking for romance and basically just want a guy to treat them like trash ie pull their hair and smack their ass while having sex and not call them for a month afterwards if ever again.
You can find what a chick's relationship goals are and what kind of person she is and how she will treat you by what she says to you in the beginning of the relationship about how she treated, interacted with and views men in general.
In anycase to more directly answer your question I don't think romance is a weakness for DJ's. In fact I think it is the most non and anti DJ thing that a guy can do unless of course you are simply using it as a tool to get laid and haven't invested any genuine emotion behind it. As in my opinion a DJ is about getting laid as often as possible with zero committment. To me a guy who doesn't view life this way is not a DJ.
Doesn't mean he's an AFC either but I think being a DJ is all about getting laid and nothing else and if thats not what you are all about if you want to go the committed relationship route you are just not a DJ.
You can benefit and learn from DJ teachings to be successful and even have successful relationships but in my mind thats not what this site was ever supposed to be about though many great posters myself included (in the past) have over complicated the DJ term including self improvement and things like relationships under its meaning.
Quiksilver
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Romance is neither here nor there when discussing strength/weakness.
People who are unhappy with themselves, who are desperate and are 'AFCs' can be romantic. Weakness.
People who are happy and successful with women can also be romantic. Strength.
When discussing this topic, the journey towards romance and how you arrive at it matter most.
People who are unhappy with themselves, who are desperate and are 'AFCs' can be romantic. Weakness.
People who are happy and successful with women can also be romantic. Strength.
When discussing this topic, the journey towards romance and how you arrive at it matter most.
Well said.Quiksilver said:Romance is neither here nor there when discussing strength/weakness.
People who are unhappy with themselves, who are desperate and are 'AFCs' can be romantic. Weakness.
People who are happy and successful with women can also be romantic. Strength.
When discussing this topic, the journey towards romance and how you arrive at it matter most.
Romantic gestures are done by stalkers, AFCs and DJs. It's who you are and how you do it.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.