You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Maybe persona too. Competitive, hard nosed business man.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Chad
A lot if women don’t care about looks. See below:
Bob Kraft likely has 3 or 4 out of the 5, to make up for his looks.
Wow, how bad must it feel to get hairmogged by a guy that old?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Robert Kraft would be appealing to a clout chasing Opportunist. He doesn't have Sex Appeal. I'd say he has Confidence. Social Proof is there. Charisma a maybe. Yes, 3-4 out of 5.
From high school through ages 35-40, looks matter most. Somewhere around 35-40 is when wealth starts to overtake looks. A lot of women in their 30s are Provider Hunters, especially if they are single moms. A 33 year old woman will be into a 40 year old man at least equally on wealth and looks, and more on wealth if she's looking longer term.
I'd hit it.
Hard pass for me.
Let me ask you this: Would you hit it if you looked like Kraft?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
No because I am a billionaire. I could do a lot better than that.
I thought guys here said money buys you no sexual desire, alpha f__, beta bux and all that. Maybe this woman represents a compromise of sorts. Or maybe Kraft should hit the gym? I'm sure he has access to a few.
Ehhh. He’s old as fvck. She at least looks like she has class. A 20 year old thot will just blow all his money and act a fool.
A doctor is nothing to sneeze at and for her age she is hot, have you seen the average 40-50-year old woman? yikes
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
