Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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rivalry: good thing or bad thing?

Credos

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I have this guy in my class, he's born in the mechanical branche, his father owns alot of land where he learned to work with machines and there he gained his talent toward mechanics.

I never had anything with mechanics until three years ago, I started studying it and found out that it really intrests me.

We both got a bachelor degree now, he did ofcourse get better grades because he gives 100% and I've been a lazy idiot and alwayse made it with just enough points...

Now we both want to become engeniers. During the exams I felt for the first time that only by giving 100% I was going to make it, which ofcourse I didn't do first semester (before the exams)... I did gain alot more intrest in the course during my exams and feel willing to put alot more effort in my studies. In addition, hearing that this other guy is doing well pissed me off, because he's such a douchebag (not for getting better grades, but his behaviour towards everybody) and just to prove that I'm better than this guy I would give 100%...

So in a way I see this "rivalry" as a good thing... To keep me motivated
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Dedication

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Credos said:
rivalry: good thing or bad thing?
Is that a question or a statement?

Well I can say, Hell yeah rivalry is a good thing. But I like to call it competition.
 
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A rivalry is good if it pushes you to work harder.

But if makes you jealous and want to win by bringing him down, then a rivalry is a negative.
 

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People tend to get what they want out of life, whether they realize it or not. If vanquishing your rival is what you genuinely want the most, more than sitting on your ass when you are tired, then that is what you will achieve.
 

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Competition is very good, i myself am very competative but... if you are only doing it to beat him , thats not good. You need to decide if that is really what you want and work hard on it , not just because you want to beat him.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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