"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Risk... from another angle

thefonz

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mystery.....you are absolutly F***ing right

You helped me realize that i am way to depend on this board for answers and they are not in here, i need to get out there.....i'l tell myself i come here for motivation but deep down i believe alot of it (recently at least) has been about dependency which i despise....i gotta change, thanks for the post
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Risk taking is essential. However, a single experience can be percieved in many ways. That's why guidance is required. If it was all a matter of experience then all AFC who put effort would become natural DJs eventually. There isn't a single right path. Lessons learned from experiences can be taken as steps towards improvement or detriment.
 

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I'm going to have to disagree here. I think learning and experience are both just as important.

Its all too well to learn by experience, but like they say, the best way of learning is to learn from other peoples mistakes.

Taking your analogy of wilderness survival: If a newbie was left in a rainforest without any clothes or equipment, they would die. But if the newbie learnt a little about survival, understood the basics, then gained knowledge of other peoples experiences, he would survive for longer.

In most of my own experiences, I've done best when I learn a little from other peoples experience, try it out for myself, then learn from my experiences.

The advantage of learning from other people before entering the field is that you don't have to re-invent the wheel by yourself. You understand the basics, you know the principles, and its up to yourself to adapt to the situation.


I do acknowledge that in many cases, people on this board spend too much time learning and too little time experiencing. For those people having a bit of field experience will be valuable, but this shouldn't suggest people can be taught effectively by experience alone. A lot of time and energy can be saved by recieving some basic training before heading out.
 
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