"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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reviving relationships?!

governor

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i'm just throwing a question out here, trying to get a few responses: i'm sure most of you hold the belief that an ex. is an ex. period. anyone who tries to "relight the candle" is just reading a book through again. some funny parts you never got before, but still the same ending.
But what about getting back into a relationship which ended due to uncontrollable changes ie moving areas/countries? (quite a big deal for us young ones).
is there always a chance to rekindle a flame in that situation? if so, how? given that things were going fine before the change occured.
i'd love to hear some responses.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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blinkwatt

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Yes that is completely different then breaking up because of cheating on each other,fighting etc. Just start a new you have a butt load of stuff to talk to her about already. Just ask her to lunch and see where it goes. Its up to you to make something for yourself.
 

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If it ended due to circumstances you had no control over, then there should be no barrier preventing the relationship resuming. As long as there were no soppy “how come you are leaving me” type comments then you should be fine. You didn’t break up, you were snapped apart.
Call her up and tell her you want to see her, that’s how you rekindle a flame.
 

governor

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yeah it was a definite "if i wasn't going away, i would definitely keep this thing going." if she was just some chick, i wouldn't really mind, but she was my best friend (not in the LJBF kind of way), for about three years before-hand, so we are definitely going to be meeting up again.
 
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