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Don Juan
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Hey DJs!
I have been dating this girl for 7 months already, and we've had our fair share of ups and downs!
however, I have noticed some red flags lately;
I don't want to look or act needy and I don't want to have any approval seeking behaviors.
also, it doesn't help that we're 2 hours away from each other. so I understand that I am in a position to be cheated on!
I have been dating this girl for 7 months already, and we've had our fair share of ups and downs!
however, I have noticed some red flags lately;
- she no longer calls or texts me with the same frequency as she use to
- she is online on WhatsApp sometimes all day or late at night and not talking to me
- she continues to do what I've voice my displeasure on (I see it as disrespect and tests)
- "dread" isn't doing much for me at this time - thinking very hard now if I should just cut my losses
- she just bought her Argentina visa and plane ticket to join me on a trip in September for 1 week! despite us having some trying times now
- I've tried to explain to her from a non-needy frame what I've come to learn and expect from women, and that genuine desire is not something I negotiate
- I remind her that the door is there and she can walk out anytime she wants
- she had refrained from putting up photos of us on her social media up until I personally uploaded one of us to her facebook
- she says that she doesn't know if she will ever be enough for me (I neg her as per dread)
- in Mexico City last week, she would walk in front of me with my colleague. I explained to her that this is not normal behavior of a girlfriend or woman in love. I told her that these things are very telling, and that if she is doing them as tests that she should stop (nip it in the butt)
- I had gone through her phone and didn't find anything incriminating - no guy under her "recents" in WhatsApp and no weird messages on searches on Instagram or DM. However, I find an old conversation between her and her last fling before me - where she upfront told the guy "Leave me alone ______. You had your chance.". Weird enough, I noticed she searched him up Facebook (he wasn't there some weeks ago when I searched for myself using her phone). So maybe she is keeping tabs on him?
- She says she hardly communicates anymore because she hardly gets a reply from me. I told her during the week I'm on my purpose and grind, and that she has my undivided time and attention on weekends. I told her this won't change, but I will try to keep in touch more often during the week
- when she does contact me, it's for something unrelated and nothing to do with us (nothing personal). I don't even get a "hey baby" "good morning" or whatever before she tells me or asks me what she has on mind
- I've learn that women are the ones who "maintain" the relationship - and when they feel their men slipping or losing interest, this anxiety causes them to try and fix things. I don't that with her any longer.
I don't want to look or act needy and I don't want to have any approval seeking behaviors.
also, it doesn't help that we're 2 hours away from each other. so I understand that I am in a position to be cheated on!
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