"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Revelation to self...

thelad

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OK guys Ive had a realisation that I MIGHT be doing something wrong. weather it is a bad thing or not. Could anyone tell me what this means.

OK - I am mature student - in uni for the short term taking time out after a divorce(not complex yet) its all good at the mo and the fog is nearly cleared.
so from start of the course I have 2 women I latched onto to early on ,we hang out within class houses she's 40 odd (married) the other one is 20 odd but she's got a stick up her ass but we all get on well with them that's it. the other men in the class group together but the women are more receptive to me not many men in the class.

Now.

12 years ago I had a 6 month course on and an overseas placement two girls hung with me all the time one was jealous but kept saying I wouldn't get that girl or that girl needless to say I kept my distance after a while but I've never asked any more of them since (haven't seen them for years)

what's getting me Im repeating the pattern don't know if its a good thing or a bad thing mind you there's always a day Id like **** one of them just for my own kicks. but I think it might work against me cos its frigging university people talk. and u get but****ed.

I wanna know what it is... theres a niggling I should dissociate?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Anybody? one thing Ill say after realising your behaviour one thing is knowing about it but what to do about it. I suppose there's a lot to be said for don't rock the boat ....
 
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