"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Hey fellas, I’m back on the boards after nearly 3 years… I hit a rut about 5 weeks ago when my gf of almost 3 years dumped me for another guy. This isn’t a “how to get my ex back” thread. I just wanted to throw a thank you out to sosuave.com, and all you guys. After searching through all the break-up and heartbreak threads on this site (mostly in the mature man forum), I’ve managed to make a lot of sense out of my little bump in the road. Thanks to all the older fellas for sharing your experiences and advice with everyone. I know it helped me quite a bit and I’m very glad to have learned what I know now at such a young age.

When she dumped me, I walked away and haven’t talked to her since (cheers joekerr :up: ). I started hitting the gym again and have been feeling pretty good lately. I’m starting to get my **** back together and I’m slowly starting to get over her. I’m starting to get used to being single again. Anyways it’s been a while since I’ve posted here so I wanted to just throw myself out there.

Thanks for listening guys
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Glad to hear you're on the up and up man. Just remember that a lot of us have been through the same ****. Looking back on all my relationships (ones in which I've ended it and ones in which she has ended it) I don't regret breaking up with any of my Ex's. You're doing the right thing by taking time to get back on your feet. The worst thing to do is ignore your emotions and tell yourself that you aren't in pain. Pain is the first step to freedom and freedom from relying on women is where you want to be at this point in your life.

You're 19 and you still have many great years left in you. I'm 21 and regret all the time I spent in stupid relationships with women who aren't worth my time. But the most important thing is that we learned this lesson early on in life. I feel bad for the suckers out there who are in their 30s and married to women who cheat on them all the time, because they don't have a sense of well being. See, it's men like you and I who will be well versed in how women work by the time we are even thinking about marriage down the road. Best of luck.
 
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You've taken the right steps so far. Keep walking buddy.
 
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