"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hey fellas, I’m back on the boards after nearly 3 years… I hit a rut about 5 weeks ago when my gf of almost 3 years dumped me for another guy. This isn’t a “how to get my ex back” thread. I just wanted to throw a thank you out to sosuave.com, and all you guys. After searching through all the break-up and heartbreak threads on this site (mostly in the mature man forum), I’ve managed to make a lot of sense out of my little bump in the road. Thanks to all the older fellas for sharing your experiences and advice with everyone. I know it helped me quite a bit and I’m very glad to have learned what I know now at such a young age.

When she dumped me, I walked away and haven’t talked to her since (cheers joekerr :up: ). I started hitting the gym again and have been feeling pretty good lately. I’m starting to get my **** back together and I’m slowly starting to get over her. I’m starting to get used to being single again. Anyways it’s been a while since I’ve posted here so I wanted to just throw myself out there.

Thanks for listening guys
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Glad to hear you're on the up and up man. Just remember that a lot of us have been through the same ****. Looking back on all my relationships (ones in which I've ended it and ones in which she has ended it) I don't regret breaking up with any of my Ex's. You're doing the right thing by taking time to get back on your feet. The worst thing to do is ignore your emotions and tell yourself that you aren't in pain. Pain is the first step to freedom and freedom from relying on women is where you want to be at this point in your life.

You're 19 and you still have many great years left in you. I'm 21 and regret all the time I spent in stupid relationships with women who aren't worth my time. But the most important thing is that we learned this lesson early on in life. I feel bad for the suckers out there who are in their 30s and married to women who cheat on them all the time, because they don't have a sense of well being. See, it's men like you and I who will be well versed in how women work by the time we are even thinking about marriage down the road. Best of luck.
 
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You've taken the right steps so far. Keep walking buddy.
 
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