"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Return of the Ditched HB!

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You may have seen my other thread in which a HB was ****ing around with me so I ditched her ass mid date. (http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=188137)

I didn't hear anything from her until today. I generally go into work on Sundays and punch out a bunch of things before the week starts (and this is well known around the office), she shows up (not typical of her) and asks to talk. I indulge her.

She says that it was rude of me to walk out to which I reply, you know, the whole evening was rude. Then she says that while she doesn't want to date now, she could she herself dating me in the future and wanted to know how I feel about that. I tell her frankly, no, I don't see that.

The entire time I act as ALPHA as I have ever been in my entire life. I treat her with an air of arrogance as she tells me she hasn't been able to focus on anything all weekend, and act like the whole thing is the least of my concerns.

As we part ways (I was going home) I get a parting jab. She is dressed down and wearing some pretty horrific shoes. I tell her that its unprofessional and looks like something salvation army wouldn't give away for free. I smile, wink, and walk away.

Her friend texts my friend later (same players from the first post) that she had to counsel this HB for an hour because she was so upset with how things went.

Pimp hand remains strong.

John :trouble:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Some of the most incredible stuff I've read on the site; hope she was really hot man.
 

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Black Dog said:
Some of the most incredible stuff I've read on the site; hope she was really hot man.
Really hot. Girl is a glutton for punishment it seems. I treat her like **** that night and ignore her, and now her IL is back up. Not sure I want to pursue this any further...but maybe an attempt at a booty call? Feels good to be on top, but I would like to seal this deal too.
 

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johnhat57 said:
Really hot. Girl is a glutton for punishment it seems. I treat her like **** that night and ignore her, and now her IL is back up. Not sure I want to pursue this any further...but maybe an attempt at a booty call? Feels good to be on top, but I would like to seal this deal too.

You played it outstandingly. Kudos for you.

I think you positioned yourself perfectly. Thats the way to play hot girls. They may not admit it but when you put them in their place its a turn on for them because it exhibits alpha characteristics. That you wont take shyt from her no matter how hot she is.
 

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gaspipe said:
You played it outstandingly. Kudos for you.

I think you positioned yourself perfectly. Thats the way to play hot girls. They may not admit it but when you put them in their place its a turn on for them because it exhibits alpha characteristics. That you wont take shyt from her no matter how hot she is.
Thanks man? Thoughts on trying to go further with this?

Pro's
- I can tell she'd be an animal in the sack
- Hot as hell

Con's
- It may just be me, but I feel weird hooking up with a chick that I know is hooking up with other dudes
- Work together
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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johnhat57

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gaspipe said:
You played it outstandingly. Kudos for you.

I think you positioned yourself perfectly. Thats the way to play hot girls. They may not admit it but when you put them in their place its a turn on for them because it exhibits alpha characteristics. That you wont take shyt from her no matter how hot she is.
Thanks man? Thoughts on trying to go further with this?

Pro's
- I can tell she'd be an animal in the sack
- Hot as hell

Con's
- It may just be me, but I feel weird hooking up with a chick that I know is hooking up with other dudes
- Work together
 

johnhat57

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gaspipe said:
You played it outstandingly. Kudos for you.

I think you positioned yourself perfectly. Thats the way to play hot girls. They may not admit it but when you put them in their place its a turn on for them because it exhibits alpha characteristics. That you wont take shyt from her no matter how hot she is.
Thanks man? Thoughts on trying to go further with this?

Pro's
- I can tell she'd be an animal in the sack
- Hot as hell

Con's
- It may just be me, but I feel weird hooking up with a chick that I know is hooking up with other dudes
- Work together
 

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This is the best possible outcome. You walk away with all the power while she drools over you.

Way to turn the tables, man. Johnhat: I tip my hat to you, brother:rockon:
 

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Just an update. I've been nailing this HB for the past week. Guess some things work out.

Now just trying to not get attached...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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