Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I once had a Secret clearance. I remember at the briefing for it that "young bachelors especially" need to hide the security badge when doing something off-site as there were "attractive, young Eastern European" looking for young men wearing defense contractor badges that had to color coding for a clearance.Retired US colonel facing 30 years in prison for ‘sharing military secrets on dating site’
David Franklin Slater is accused of sending classified defence information to someone claiming to be a woman living in Ukrainewww.telegraph.co.uk
As @MatureDJ might say, it's game over for geomaxxing SecretAgentCels.
This actually motivated me to wear the badge at happy-hours. Of course, no hot chick introduced herself. ... of an applicant. Single? Short? FaceCel? REJECTED!Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
