"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Resurrection

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To get my mind off a woman I foolishly lost and to look better for the sake of replacing her (secretly to win her back), I am throwing myself into lifting and getting in ridiculously good shape... Both mentally and physically. This is my journal to track progress and have a form of accountability. Input is appreciated since this is my first time really getting serious.


Starting stats:
Age: 28. Look like 23.
Height: 6'0" Terrible posture and weak back muscles.
Weight: 170.4lbs. Always been close to scrawny. Certainly not impressive.
Body fat: 14%. Most around abs, none on arms or legs

Diet: fast food or nothing. Sodas. Typically feel like crap.
Mental state: Depressed. No self esteem. Introverted. No close friends. Jealous of others often. Rarely make eye contact. Nervous and worried what others do and think.
Prospect with women: zero


Goal:
Age: 29 How many months will this take?
Height: 6'1". Posture and lower back strength
Weight: 200lbs. I'd look like a new man, which I'm good with
Body fat: 9%. don't know what this should be. Trainer says it is doable

Diet: whole foods. No junk. Stuff the makes me feel well. Water water water
Mental state: confident. A bit of an ego. Extroverted. Close friends and to be gregarious with all. Self assured.
Prospects with women: women trying to pick up for once

As you can see, I want to track the mind and body during this personal growth.

10/10/13 First personal training session today. Pointers: eat often. Eat whole fruit for snacks, almonds, tuna salad, chicken, brown rice.
Start on the treadmill just to get blood pumping. Very little cardio for me.
Focus on legs. 2 to 1 ratio for legs to upper body. Mornings do a body weight routine for whole body. Various running stretches.
Push-ups, planks, leg raises (idk what it's actually called on back keep legs 1ft off ground as long as possible), various squats, sit-ups in circuit to form failure, 3 sets.

Areas to focus on in afternoon workout:
Arms- biceps, triceps, forearms
Back- shoulders, deltoid
Chest- chest and abs
Legs- quads and calf

The trainer suggested deadlifts and squats are most important.

Now, tear this to shreds or give sage advice. I am changing my life!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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He's a novice, so he doesn't understand what is realistic, but he will be able to recomp pretty well as long as his diet is sorted out.

What routine has your trainer given you David?
 

GADavid

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Unfortunately we didn't get to that... Free intro. I have yet to meet the actual trainer I'll be with. I'm looking for some guidance on beginning since it'll be a week until then. I need to get busy and won't wait a week.

The body fat vs weight is the target. I'm sure the body fat will vary while adding 30lbs of muscle.

I should add that I'm not after certain strength benchmarks. Maybe that is a goal you pick up along the way? I'd like to fill out my frame so it looks healthy and clothes fit like they should.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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im down today so ill make it short:
Find your way.your own way.today i overheard a discussion which reeked of mediocre empty crap.they were showing off their college degrees.dont be like them.dont waste your life on sh!t that doesnt matter.
Embrace your fears,question everything and find ur true self.

You dont need bodyweight exercises as a beginner.keep to freeweights and avoid the machines.
 
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