"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Rest: probably the most under-rated part of the lifting lifestyle

Fuglydude

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I personally think most guys don't really understand how much rest their bodies need to fully recover. Getting just the right amount of rest is tricky: not getting enough rest will slow progress in the gym...getting too much can cause reduced stimulation for muscle and strength development and hamper progress.

I think rest is VERY under-rated...and something that not many guys really talk about. We're always concerned about diets, and sets and reps and routines, etc.

I'd like to get an idea of how much time you guys need to fully recover to feel like you're back to 100%.

Personally, assuming I'm getting adequate amounts of rest and nutrition I feel like I'm back to 100% after around 72-96 hours of rest (this means no cardio/no weights and only moderate physical activity).

How about you guys?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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It's wrong to assume sitting on your ass is the best way to recover.
 

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What do you mean by rest time anyways? Are you talking about the time between work outs that you're not doing anything as high intensity, or are you talking nights/hours of sleep?

Besides, recovery varies depending on individual's genes, training level, recovery speed, the intensity of the exercise done and whatnot. If recovery was as simple as not doing **** for a few days after lifting then there would be no need for things like periodization. It is simple, but it's not.

Since I am at a beginner level, I can recover after 2 nights of sleep, so roughly 48 hours after a workout.
 

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eldafar said:
Since I am at a beginner level, I can recover after 2 nights of sleep, so roughly 48 hours after a workout.
Ive always thought beginners require more rest?
 

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bigshot said:
Ive always thought beginners require more rest?
Is is true that beginners' recovery abilities aren't as high compared to those of more advanced lifters.

As Rippetoe says a beginner doesn't lift nearly as close to his/her potential max as an advanced lifter, so the body recovers pretty fast. Which is why his program has squats 3x a week, and even deadlifts after squats.

In other words, since my lifts are light, my body recovers faster :crackup:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Yeah beginners are not doing the same workload as the more advanced so they have less to actually recover from.

Iron Addict talks somewhere about squatting three times a week and says he couldn't do it anymore because even the light day at 80% was still like 425 lbs and hardly felt like a recovery day.
 

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MrR is correct, activity is still important.

However, boiling in a salt bath for a while is certainly allowed:D
 

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In my experience, low-moderate intensity, steady-state cardio is the 'magic link' which keeps me from getting out of shape while resting/recovering. I keep a very demanding schedule, and won't lift heavy if I don't feel well rested & recovered. If I'm burning the candle and know it's going to several days or longer before I'm rested enough to 'do it right', I'll add some pull-ups, push-ups, & cable row sets to keep the rust off after cardio.
 

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i just at 4.5k calories after volume day of texas. its the next day and im sorer. WTF?
my maintenance is ~2700-2900!!!
 
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