Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Response to 'you're not my type at all' on a date

drift king

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jafyk said:
If you're not a girl's type why would she come to the date with you to begin with? Well, maybe she found out during the date you were not her type. I think it mostly sounds bad because of the way it sounds. I think a girl should rephrase that to something else. Anyhow, I think C& F or playing it off and deciding on letting her walk are good options.
I will reach for my cell phone, pretend to answer it and then say to her while I'm on the phone, "Ok , thanks for coming out see you around"
she said i'm not usually her type at all but because i was charming she wanted to meet me..

she was referring to ethnicity and race in a polite way.. like 'you're not usually my type at all.. but you were charming in your messages so i wanted to meet you.'

it wasn't just this one it's happened a couple of times now so i thought it be a good idea to figure out how to respond as it more than likely will happen in future.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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"I guess I must be the universe's way of teaching you to not be so closed-minded...'
 

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drift king said:
she said i'm not usually her type at all but because i was charming she wanted to meet me..

she was referring to ethnicity and race in a polite way.. like 'you're not usually my type at all.. but you were charming in your messages so i wanted to meet you.'

it wasn't just this one it's happened a couple of times now so i thought it be a good idea to figure out how to respond as it more than likely will happen in future.
Charming online is not enough to get you laid. Unless all you are looking for is platonic friends. Since you know it will happen again, if you don't know anything to prevent it, how about you start working on yourself and learning ways to prevent these situations instead of wanting to have the perfect line/answer to everything they might say?

I know, it doesn't sound as sexy as just giving you lines. I am done giving you advice for now. You're a little too stubborn at this point. You might be the type that needs to learn by doing your mistakes. We all do at some point.
 

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Danger said:
The best response to a sht test like this is no response.

Just pretend it didn't happen. Why? Because it didn't make any sense whatsoever. Your frame is too strong to acknowledge such insignificant comments.

When she says something like that you say "Wow look how huge that guy is over there" or tell her a funny story that you remembered, but you MUST ignore it and change the topic immediately.

That is how you pass it.

Exactly, earlier I posted how my GF of 8 months said this to me. When she said i wasn't her type, I think I asked what her type was, she told me what it was, and then I just ignored it. No reply whatsoever, I pretended I never heard it and moved on.

I'm sure we all have preferences, but haven't you ever liked or dated a girl that initially wasn't your type. We think we know our types, but if you give it a chance with someone different, you may just like it. The same goes for girls. They'll have their defense mechanism up (***** shield) which is natural. But that doesn't mean you can't get past it, be persistent and you'll be surprised. Haven't you ever heard what girls say about their bf's? A lot of em say that they weren't attracted to him(or her type) at first and then fell in love with him later. I always hear this.

Last thing, not too long ago I hooked up witha girl who's probably 3 inches taller than me. We were talking and she said she's only into guys who are taller than her, and into the surfer blond hair types. Well, I'm shorter than her, tan and have black hair. Go figure...
 

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The idea that ANY girl has a physical "type" of guy that she feels attraction for is pretty laughable. In fact, if you look at any given girl's past boyfriends, it's pretty likely that NONE of them were her physical "type."
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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