You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
haha. GREAT.slaog said:"I did think I was out of your league alright.."!
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
drift king said:
Hell, like someone esle said above, It could be a sh1t test too. So next time a girl tries to tell you what her type is or what she's attracted to just nodd your head and agree..."sure you do"Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Or maybe she's not attracted to him and never will, and it is one of those where you cut your loses? No big deal. I don't disagree with what you said, yet, lets face it, in order for your approach to work, the guy needs to NOT CARE about the outcome. The OP cared way too much about everything, and was negative since before he even met her. He had too much invested in the outcome, then after the date, is too wounded after being rejected, perhaps because he didn't reject first. I don't know, but he's still dwelling.Sandow said:The last girl that said this to me was my gf and we ended up going out for 8 months. I eventually broke it off at the end. Don't listen to what a girl says, pay attention to her actions. You DJ's out there should know that a woman herself doesn't even know what she wants, let alone her type. "Girls don't always say what they mean, and mean what they say."
Back to my ex. On our first date she bluntly said "you're not my type, I don't date guys like you." Haha, think I paid attention to that B.S.? F### no. I knew that if i played my cards right and show her the greatest time whenever she was around me, i had a pretty good shot at winning her over. And I did
Bottom line, don't pay attention to what a woman says, they don't know what they want or what they're type is. Only us DJ's do
Obviously you did something right to get her to go out with you and obviously you're did something wrong on the date.drift king said:
Yeah, actions speak louder than words! Women will have many differing emotions and as well as that they'll throw sh!t etc at you but you'll know by her actions. Many AFC's go by words only which I myself used to do as well. At the moment I'm seeing a girl like this.. her words say one thing but her actions say another.Sandow said:
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
thread should have ended right thereslaog said:"I did think I was out of your league alright..
that's good, but what if she counters with 'actually i think i'm the one who's out of your leagueslaog said:"I did think I was out of your league alright..
' or something else along those lines?Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.