"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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response to a girl that sends a pic?

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So, I'm still learning this stuff and this might sound like a pretty dumb question...

Met this girl online (30). Got her number. Gave her a ring 2 days later. Talked to her for about 20 minutes. Conversation was good, kept it light/playful then setup a date.

At end of conversation she says "send me a picture so I can use it for your contact picture"

I try texting her a pic and she replies saying how she couldn't view it on her phone. I then told her "let me guess...2003 blackberry? Time to upgrade your phone!"

she responds with "lol Send it to my email please"
I send it the next day.

She then texts me that she got it. I don't respond. Then a few hours later she sends a pic of herself asking "do you like this one?" She looks fly as hell...

I was going to simply respond with "nice" but, was also thinking of sending this:

"Nice -almost as good as mine!"

Only reason I ask is because I don't want to fall back into my nice guy ways and don't want to give over the control. Or am I thinking too much into this crap?

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Is this really what being a "DJ" has come to??
 
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IMHO, giving her some validation isn't bad if it is a pump and dump situation, and may even be ok longer term. It's not as though liking her makes you weaker.

I use the phrase "l like that" a lot. I believe it's effective because when I don't say it, the opposite is implied: "thanks for the pic".
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Compliments are fine, and I think more than justified. But avoid anything sexual in nature until you have had sex with her. "Cute face!" is an example. It's a genuine, honest compliment that cannot possibly come across as desperate or creepy. It gives validation without backfiring. And it lets the girl still wonder if you think she is sexy.
 
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whatever OP. You're overthinking. Find more women to date and you won't have to analyze stuff quite this thorougly.
 
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Read Rollo's "The Medium Is The Message" blog. It's about me!
Basically be very nonchalant and not too eager to reward her too much.
I like the "nice, almost as good as mine" line.
 
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Greasy Pig said:
Read Rollo's "The Medium Is The Message" blog. It's about me!
Basically be very nonchalant and not too eager to reward her too much.
I like the "nice, almost as good as mine" line.
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I can find a google reference on my phone but not an actual link unfortunately.
Just google rollo greasy pig and see how you go.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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