"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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response to a girl that sends a pic?

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So, I'm still learning this stuff and this might sound like a pretty dumb question...

Met this girl online (30). Got her number. Gave her a ring 2 days later. Talked to her for about 20 minutes. Conversation was good, kept it light/playful then setup a date.

At end of conversation she says "send me a picture so I can use it for your contact picture"

I try texting her a pic and she replies saying how she couldn't view it on her phone. I then told her "let me guess...2003 blackberry? Time to upgrade your phone!"

she responds with "lol Send it to my email please"
I send it the next day.

She then texts me that she got it. I don't respond. Then a few hours later she sends a pic of herself asking "do you like this one?" She looks fly as hell...

I was going to simply respond with "nice" but, was also thinking of sending this:

"Nice -almost as good as mine!"

Only reason I ask is because I don't want to fall back into my nice guy ways and don't want to give over the control. Or am I thinking too much into this crap?

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Is this really what being a "DJ" has come to??
 

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IMHO, giving her some validation isn't bad if it is a pump and dump situation, and may even be ok longer term. It's not as though liking her makes you weaker.

I use the phrase "l like that" a lot. I believe it's effective because when I don't say it, the opposite is implied: "thanks for the pic".
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Compliments are fine, and I think more than justified. But avoid anything sexual in nature until you have had sex with her. "Cute face!" is an example. It's a genuine, honest compliment that cannot possibly come across as desperate or creepy. It gives validation without backfiring. And it lets the girl still wonder if you think she is sexy.
 

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whatever OP. You're overthinking. Find more women to date and you won't have to analyze stuff quite this thorougly.
 

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Read Rollo's "The Medium Is The Message" blog. It's about me!
Basically be very nonchalant and not too eager to reward her too much.
I like the "nice, almost as good as mine" line.
 

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Greasy Pig said:
Read Rollo's "The Medium Is The Message" blog. It's about me!
Basically be very nonchalant and not too eager to reward her too much.
I like the "nice, almost as good as mine" line.
Got link?
 

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I can find a google reference on my phone but not an actual link unfortunately.
Just google rollo greasy pig and see how you go.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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