mustfirstregister
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How do you respond to: "No, I have a bf. You're really sweet, though. If I was single, I"d give you my number."?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Responding to ""No, I have a bf. You're really sweet, though. If I was sing"
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
jophil28
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If she actually has a b/f, then she is telling you that she is taken and she is not interested in you.
IF she hasn't, then she is also telling you that she is not interested.
Take a hint, say, "OK" and go chat up someone who at least shows some interest in getting to know you.
I expect the chirping chorus of wannabe's to chime in real soon and tell you that this is a woman's typical "test", and you should push forward and not take 'no' for an answer ...and a "real" man is not fazed by rejection and ...blah and so on.
Yawn .
Meeting new women is supposed to be simple and damn good fun. It is not a military assault or some kind of covert ops.
IF she hasn't, then she is also telling you that she is not interested.
Take a hint, say, "OK" and go chat up someone who at least shows some interest in getting to know you.
I expect the chirping chorus of wannabe's to chime in real soon and tell you that this is a woman's typical "test", and you should push forward and not take 'no' for an answer ...and a "real" man is not fazed by rejection and ...blah and so on.
Yawn .
Meeting new women is supposed to be simple and damn good fun. It is not a military assault or some kind of covert ops.
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BlackJackal
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Just say ok, and keep it moving.mustfirstregister said:
It would take a complete retard to not realize this girl was probably flirting with you.
If a girl is flirting with you, you can see it in the way she speaks and looks at you.
You didn't tell us what vibe she was giving off. Dont come back in here with a half ass-ed story fool.
If a girl is flirting with you, you can see it in the way she speaks and looks at you.
You didn't tell us what vibe she was giving off. Dont come back in here with a half ass-ed story fool.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
how about you give me your number anyway?
I would say that, what are you going to lose? if you walk away you are going to lose the girl anyway, throw this in, be bold, have fun, see what she will reply, have fun with the conversation itself
I would say that, what are you going to lose? if you walk away you are going to lose the girl anyway, throw this in, be bold, have fun, see what she will reply, have fun with the conversation itself
PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
Fuk em, tell her you have a boyfriend too, but would like to fuk a nice chick. ha
Thats what they all say before Joe the Plumber unzips his fly.
Thats what they all say before Joe the Plumber unzips his fly.
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Judge nismo sees a very common case here.
This girl is just not that into you. I have a boyfriend means I'm taken or I'm not interested. Virtually synonymous. If this girl was interested enough, she wouldn't bring up a boyfriend.
Case and point; I flirted with a married milf across the street from me in New Orleans and she knew what she was doing when she got all close to me and dressing so sexy. She had no shame of kissing me in front of her family. We even ended up f**king and to this day, she never told me with her own mouth that she was married. I only knew she was from her mom and my dad.
But the fact remains that she isn't interested. You can listen to me and maqnetik and just walk off or drag out this rejection for a time. That's up to you, and that's my ruling.
Case closed. Go after another chick.
This girl is just not that into you. I have a boyfriend means I'm taken or I'm not interested. Virtually synonymous. If this girl was interested enough, she wouldn't bring up a boyfriend.
Case and point; I flirted with a married milf across the street from me in New Orleans and she knew what she was doing when she got all close to me and dressing so sexy. She had no shame of kissing me in front of her family. We even ended up f**king and to this day, she never told me with her own mouth that she was married. I only knew she was from her mom and my dad.
But the fact remains that she isn't interested. You can listen to me and maqnetik and just walk off or drag out this rejection for a time. That's up to you, and that's my ruling.
Case closed. Go after another chick.
mustfirstregister
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This is not true. Shy girls who are attracted to you don't flirt.Ease said:
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
DonJuan_DeRosco
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I feel we could be overlooking something here.
If she had just said: "No, i have a bf, your sweet though" I would agree and say, move on, she's not into you.
However, it's the last bit that sticks out "If i was single i'd give you my number".
If she was coming across, as Ease says, as flirty, then from experience, this last bit is testing the water. And if you escalated enough, she would be quite willing to stray.
If she wasn't coming across as flirty, then, again from experience, i would say that she was just being 'nice' with her rejection.
As Ease said, you KNOW when a girl is being flirty with you.
If she had just said: "No, i have a bf, your sweet though" I would agree and say, move on, she's not into you.
However, it's the last bit that sticks out "If i was single i'd give you my number".
If she was coming across, as Ease says, as flirty, then from experience, this last bit is testing the water. And if you escalated enough, she would be quite willing to stray.
If she wasn't coming across as flirty, then, again from experience, i would say that she was just being 'nice' with her rejection.
As Ease said, you KNOW when a girl is being flirty with you.