mustfirstregister
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How do you respond to: "No, I have a bf. You're really sweet, though. If I was single, I"d give you my number."?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Responding to ""No, I have a bf. You're really sweet, though. If I was sing"
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
jophil28
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If she actually has a b/f, then she is telling you that she is taken and she is not interested in you.
IF she hasn't, then she is also telling you that she is not interested.
Take a hint, say, "OK" and go chat up someone who at least shows some interest in getting to know you.
I expect the chirping chorus of wannabe's to chime in real soon and tell you that this is a woman's typical "test", and you should push forward and not take 'no' for an answer ...and a "real" man is not fazed by rejection and ...blah and so on.
Yawn .
Meeting new women is supposed to be simple and damn good fun. It is not a military assault or some kind of covert ops.
IF she hasn't, then she is also telling you that she is not interested.
Take a hint, say, "OK" and go chat up someone who at least shows some interest in getting to know you.
I expect the chirping chorus of wannabe's to chime in real soon and tell you that this is a woman's typical "test", and you should push forward and not take 'no' for an answer ...and a "real" man is not fazed by rejection and ...blah and so on.
Yawn .
Meeting new women is supposed to be simple and damn good fun. It is not a military assault or some kind of covert ops.
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BlackJackal
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Just say ok, and keep it moving.mustfirstregister said:
It would take a complete retard to not realize this girl was probably flirting with you.
If a girl is flirting with you, you can see it in the way she speaks and looks at you.
You didn't tell us what vibe she was giving off. Dont come back in here with a half ass-ed story fool.
If a girl is flirting with you, you can see it in the way she speaks and looks at you.
You didn't tell us what vibe she was giving off. Dont come back in here with a half ass-ed story fool.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
how about you give me your number anyway?
I would say that, what are you going to lose? if you walk away you are going to lose the girl anyway, throw this in, be bold, have fun, see what she will reply, have fun with the conversation itself
I would say that, what are you going to lose? if you walk away you are going to lose the girl anyway, throw this in, be bold, have fun, see what she will reply, have fun with the conversation itself
PapiChulo
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Fuk em, tell her you have a boyfriend too, but would like to fuk a nice chick. ha
Thats what they all say before Joe the Plumber unzips his fly.
Thats what they all say before Joe the Plumber unzips his fly.
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Judge nismo sees a very common case here.
This girl is just not that into you. I have a boyfriend means I'm taken or I'm not interested. Virtually synonymous. If this girl was interested enough, she wouldn't bring up a boyfriend.
Case and point; I flirted with a married milf across the street from me in New Orleans and she knew what she was doing when she got all close to me and dressing so sexy. She had no shame of kissing me in front of her family. We even ended up f**king and to this day, she never told me with her own mouth that she was married. I only knew she was from her mom and my dad.
But the fact remains that she isn't interested. You can listen to me and maqnetik and just walk off or drag out this rejection for a time. That's up to you, and that's my ruling.
Case closed. Go after another chick.
This girl is just not that into you. I have a boyfriend means I'm taken or I'm not interested. Virtually synonymous. If this girl was interested enough, she wouldn't bring up a boyfriend.
Case and point; I flirted with a married milf across the street from me in New Orleans and she knew what she was doing when she got all close to me and dressing so sexy. She had no shame of kissing me in front of her family. We even ended up f**king and to this day, she never told me with her own mouth that she was married. I only knew she was from her mom and my dad.
But the fact remains that she isn't interested. You can listen to me and maqnetik and just walk off or drag out this rejection for a time. That's up to you, and that's my ruling.
Case closed. Go after another chick.
mustfirstregister
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This is not true. Shy girls who are attracted to you don't flirt.Ease said:
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
DonJuan_DeRosco
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I feel we could be overlooking something here.
If she had just said: "No, i have a bf, your sweet though" I would agree and say, move on, she's not into you.
However, it's the last bit that sticks out "If i was single i'd give you my number".
If she was coming across, as Ease says, as flirty, then from experience, this last bit is testing the water. And if you escalated enough, she would be quite willing to stray.
If she wasn't coming across as flirty, then, again from experience, i would say that she was just being 'nice' with her rejection.
As Ease said, you KNOW when a girl is being flirty with you.
If she had just said: "No, i have a bf, your sweet though" I would agree and say, move on, she's not into you.
However, it's the last bit that sticks out "If i was single i'd give you my number".
If she was coming across, as Ease says, as flirty, then from experience, this last bit is testing the water. And if you escalated enough, she would be quite willing to stray.
If she wasn't coming across as flirty, then, again from experience, i would say that she was just being 'nice' with her rejection.
As Ease said, you KNOW when a girl is being flirty with you.