"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Respect

jhonny9546

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Every man knows that respect is earned, not given.
And most men would rather have a woman’s respect than her love.
And most women cannot truly love a man they do not respect.



Are these three valid reasons why women prefer to enter into, and remain in, LTRs with men who "intimidate" them or whom they "fear," rather than with men to whom they are attracted but whom they do not fear enough?

This is simply a reflection based on what I, and many other members here have observed along the way: freshly committed women but also the most committed ones, remain in relationships with their partners or husbands, often "nice guys" who have swallowed the "blue pill", who would lose their minds or do terrifying things if they ever found out that their gf/wives were attracted to, or had an encounter with another man, or that they could possibly have cheated on them, or something similar.

If the premise is true, do women stay in relationships with these types of intimidating, fear-inducing men, as if they were prisoners in a castle, because they actually respect them, and therefore truly love them, or, where is the point?

And you, what kind of man are you?

I'm pretty sure you would feel upset and angry too if you found out that your gf/wife was dealing with that kind of situation.
But having met many men here and understanding their POV, I think we can all agree on one thing: we should never allow ourselves to become men who trap a woman in a cage and lock the gate to keep her from leaving. Instead, we should be the kind of men who leave the gate open, giving her the freedom to choose, so that she understand that if she makes the wrong choices or does something foolish, she might come back one day only to find that the gate has been closed, and she no longer has a place in that cage.


It’s an unpleasant thing to say, but if she ends up doing something stupid and finds the gate locked, then you will be respected, and, at that point, even loved, even if she is no longer there.
On the other hand, how do you expect her to respect, and therefore love, you if you make it your concern to keep that gate permanently locked, with her trapped inside?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Poonstra

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"Upon this a question arises: whether it be better to be loved than feared or feared than loved?
It may be answered that one should wish to be both, but, because it is difficult to unite them in one person, it is much safer to be feared than loved, when, of the two, either must be dispensed with. Because this is to be asserted in general of men, that they are ungrateful, fickle, false, cowards, covetous, and as long as you succeed they are yours entirely; they will offer you their blood, property, life, and children, as is said above, when the need is far distant; but when it approaches they turn against you.

And that prince who, relying entirely on their promises, has neglected other precautions, is ruined; because friendships that are obtained by payments, and not by greatness or nobility of mind, may indeed be earned, but they are not secured, and in time of need cannot be relied upon; and men have less scruple in offending one who is beloved than one who is feared, for love is preserved by the link of obligation which, owing to the baseness of men, is broken at every opportunity for their advantage; but fear preserves you by a dread of punishment which never fails. "

Niccolò Machiavelli — The Prince, Chapter XVII (1513)
 

BaronOfHair

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Every man knows that respect is earned, not given.
And most men would rather have a woman’s respect than her love.
And most women cannot truly love a man they do not respect.



Are these three valid reasons why women prefer to enter into, and remain in, LTRs with men who "intimidate" them or whom they "fear," rather than with men to whom they are attracted but whom they do not fear enough?
Yep, and this is nothing new either. During The 1950s, Johnny Strabler

Was far more captivating than Ward Cleaver could ever be
 
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