Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Respect

jhonny9546

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Every man knows that respect is earned, not given.
And most men would rather have a woman’s respect than her love.
And most women cannot truly love a man they do not respect.



Are these three valid reasons why women prefer to enter into, and remain in, LTRs with men who "intimidate" them or whom they "fear," rather than with men to whom they are attracted but whom they do not fear enough?

This is simply a reflection based on what I, and many other members here have observed along the way: freshly committed women but also the most committed ones, remain in relationships with their partners or husbands, often "nice guys" who have swallowed the "blue pill", who would lose their minds or do terrifying things if they ever found out that their gf/wives were attracted to, or had an encounter with another man, or that they could possibly have cheated on them, or something similar.

If the premise is true, do women stay in relationships with these types of intimidating, fear-inducing men, as if they were prisoners in a castle, because they actually respect them, and therefore truly love them, or, where is the point?

And you, what kind of man are you?

I'm pretty sure you would feel upset and angry too if you found out that your gf/wife was dealing with that kind of situation.
But having met many men here and understanding their POV, I think we can all agree on one thing: we should never allow ourselves to become men who trap a woman in a cage and lock the gate to keep her from leaving. Instead, we should be the kind of men who leave the gate open, giving her the freedom to choose, so that she understand that if she makes the wrong choices or does something foolish, she might come back one day only to find that the gate has been closed, and she no longer has a place in that cage.


It’s an unpleasant thing to say, but if she ends up doing something stupid and finds the gate locked, then you will be respected, and, at that point, even loved, even if she is no longer there.
On the other hand, how do you expect her to respect, and therefore love, you if you make it your concern to keep that gate permanently locked, with her trapped inside?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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