"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Research shows people prefer working with lovable "fool" than "jerks"

amoka

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No one really likes to work with a jerk, at least not when they have a choice. Researchers at Harvard Business School may not win any awards for that insight, but they have also learned that people prefer to work with a lovable fool than with a competent jerk.

After examining 10,000 work relationships, researchers concluded that being liked is often the most important factor in getting hired, promoted, or placed in project leadership roles. People are willing to trade the overhead of working with a jerk for the ease of working with a likable person who needs help to get things done.

The preferred personality: the lovable star.

If you want to advance in your career, or in your business, you might want to consider losing your inner jerk.
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Of course. Nobody wants to work with a jerk. They're annoying, aggravating, and make the workday more frustrating. I'd happily have a stupid but easygoing co-worker, over a nerve-grating arsehole.
 

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why not be a lovable jerk?
 

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"Research shows people prefer working with lovable "fool" than "jerks""

Well DuH!.

Key being that they prefer to work with a fool, over a jerk. I can assure you though, women prefer to sleep with the @$$hole jerk over the nice fool every time....
 
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