"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Research shows people prefer working with lovable "fool" than "jerks"

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No one really likes to work with a jerk, at least not when they have a choice. Researchers at Harvard Business School may not win any awards for that insight, but they have also learned that people prefer to work with a lovable fool than with a competent jerk.

After examining 10,000 work relationships, researchers concluded that being liked is often the most important factor in getting hired, promoted, or placed in project leadership roles. People are willing to trade the overhead of working with a jerk for the ease of working with a likable person who needs help to get things done.

The preferred personality: the lovable star.

If you want to advance in your career, or in your business, you might want to consider losing your inner jerk.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Of course. Nobody wants to work with a jerk. They're annoying, aggravating, and make the workday more frustrating. I'd happily have a stupid but easygoing co-worker, over a nerve-grating arsehole.
 

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why not be a lovable jerk?
 

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"Research shows people prefer working with lovable "fool" than "jerks""

Well DuH!.

Key being that they prefer to work with a fool, over a jerk. I can assure you though, women prefer to sleep with the @$$hole jerk over the nice fool every time....
 
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