"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Research shows people prefer working with lovable "fool" than "jerks"

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No one really likes to work with a jerk, at least not when they have a choice. Researchers at Harvard Business School may not win any awards for that insight, but they have also learned that people prefer to work with a lovable fool than with a competent jerk.

After examining 10,000 work relationships, researchers concluded that being liked is often the most important factor in getting hired, promoted, or placed in project leadership roles. People are willing to trade the overhead of working with a jerk for the ease of working with a likable person who needs help to get things done.

The preferred personality: the lovable star.

If you want to advance in your career, or in your business, you might want to consider losing your inner jerk.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Of course. Nobody wants to work with a jerk. They're annoying, aggravating, and make the workday more frustrating. I'd happily have a stupid but easygoing co-worker, over a nerve-grating arsehole.
 

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why not be a lovable jerk?
 

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"Research shows people prefer working with lovable "fool" than "jerks""

Well DuH!.

Key being that they prefer to work with a fool, over a jerk. I can assure you though, women prefer to sleep with the @$$hole jerk over the nice fool every time....
 
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