"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Rescheduling 1st date part 2

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*Im intoxicavted to a good amount and typing to the best of my ability&*

so for those of you who know the story thats pretty cool.

for those of you who don't then: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=136360

So, I waited till the 2 weeks she wasnt available was over till I tried to reschedule our 1st date. Today was her first day at work after those 2 weeks and I decided to man the fcuk up and ask her on our 1st original date in person so I went over to work "to get my paychecck"". To make things as brief as possible I told her that I wasnt the type to flake and I wanted to make things up and take her out on wedsday night. She said she coudlnt. So I decided to make a last ditch effort and ask her out for tonight and she said she couldnt. I know what what you guys are thinking already and that her responses are of signs ogf disinterest but I also called her a few days after new years and she told me that she didnt have fun cuz her grandfather happened to have had a stroke that night and she spent it in the hospital instead of going to Las Vegas where her and her fam were originally supposed to be at. Her excuse for not being able to go out each night was because she watches over her grandpa at the hospital for about 4-5 hours after work...I really hate to doubt her or seem misunderstamnding to her situation...but did I lose some attraction??? I know for a fact that she doesnt have friends here because shes new and she doesnt really go out...will I end up in the friendzone if I take her out or pursue her in her current situation??...should I ask her when SHES free to ask her out? Is it even a good idea to take out someone whos concern is somewhere else(she mentioned that she was getting depressed here because all her friends are back at texas and the fact that her grandparents are both in critical condition)???

help is needed please....
 

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Shes probably in a highly emotional state right now. so your best bet would be to stop asking her out, and stop pursuing her until she comes to you. Just give her time. If she comes around great, if not, next.
 

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Damn, I almost forgot about this thread I started haha.

btw, thanks for the input Tenzen.
 

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Tenzen said:
Shes probably in a highly emotional state right now. so your best bet would be to stop asking her out, and stop pursuing her until she comes to you. Just give her time. If she comes around great, if not, next.
:yes: I agree.
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
:yes: I agree.
Wow, Francisco answered to the call! You're one of the only few I actually respect on this site dood so thank you.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

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