"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Required Reading to become a DJ & a better person

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I've recently been doing a lot of reading since I'm vacation and have some spare time, and I'd like to start a thread dedicated to books/ebooks people should read to become a [better] DJ and a better person.

So far I recommend the following:

DJ Bible - select parts. Some of the stuff is gold, some is repetitive, but every now and then reading a couple posts is insightful.

Sosuave.com articles - ok this is a given but I might as well cover all the bases. A lot of the articles are basic information but they're a great starting resource.

"Double Your Dating" by David DeAngelo (ebook) - quick read, very good basic information and a good eye opener. I read it in a day.

"The Game" by Neil Strauss - extremely entertaining read with some surprising conclusions. I just finished reading it and it's worth every penny. Rather than a list of behaviors, this book follows "Style" (Neil) in his journey from AFC to one of the top PUAs in the world.

"48 Laws of Power" by Robert Greene - found it in the business section but it's an incredible read with lots of historical examples (this is all around knowledge that will get you far).

"The Art of Seduction" by Robert Greene - similar to 48 laws of power but dealing more with seduction. I just started reading it so I can't comment much on it, but so far it's solid. Lots of historical examples of seducers as well.

posts by Rollo Tomassi - he's writing a book but until it comes out he has some very interesting theories on interpersonal relationships.

In addition to these recommendations I'm looking for other books to read as well, so let's get some input here.
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Alot of great books out there

Heres a few and I'll add more

Mastering your Inner Self Serge King
Psychology of Persuasion Kevin Hogan
Power of Focus- Jack Canfield
 

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Ricky said:
Alot of great books out there

Heres a few and I'll add more

Mastering your Inner Self Serge King
Psychology of Persuasion Kevin Hogan
Power of Focus- Jack Canfield
I heard how to win friends and influence people is a good book. The books I have are

The Art of Approaching

Real World Seduction

The Players Black Book

Dynamic Sexy life

High Status Male

Double Your Dating

Secrets of An Alpha Male

Advanced Macking

The DJ Bible

I didn't pay for any these yeah :rock:
 

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md3sign said:
posts by Rollo Tomassi - he's writing a book but until it comes out he has some very interesting theories on interpersonal relationships.

AKA a book on how to be a total keyboard jockey, all theory, no action, hmmm doesn't that remind you of a certain gender.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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MacAvoy said:
AKA a book on how to be a total keyboard jockey, all theory, no action, hmmm doesn't that remind you of a certain gender.
I take it you don't agree with his writing? I'm not advocating anyone buying his book as its yet to be released and I would certainly wait for a public opinion before dropping the dough, but I personally found a lot of his posts to make sense, even though some are taken to slight extremes.
 

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There where more posts on this thread originally!

I posted some and i know other people deffinately did, can some one please tell me why it was deleted?
 

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Here is a few that I currently have:

How to Win Friends & Influence People
by Dale Carnegie

Chicken Soup for the Soul: Living Your Dreams
By Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen

The Alladin Factor
By Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen

The Social Animal (it's a psyche book but it was a good one)
Elliot Aranson

7 Habits of Highly Successful People
Franklin Covey

Please Stop Laughing At Me...
Jodee Blanco

The Strangest Secret (Audio Recording only. Downloadable at http://www.markvictorhansen.com/strangest_secret.php)
Earl Nightengale

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MisterNigma said:
I can't believe no one has mentioned:

The Venusian Arts Handbook by Mystery. Basically the mystery method.


-E.Nigma
Damn, go ahead and give away our secrets why dontcha! No more Mystery now is there eh!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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MisterNigma said:
I can't believe no one has mentioned:

The Venusian Arts Handbook by Mystery. Basically the mystery method.

-E.Nigma

I can't believe no one has mentioned:

Principles of Mathematical Analysis, Third Edition by Walter Rudin

Its Hardcover! :rockon:
 

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The only reason i bumped this thread was because a lot of posts where deleted discussing the rollo tomassi, pooks post, david deida and og mandino's writings.

Mods why where they deleted!?!?!?!?!? i didn't imagine writing and reading them!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Doggystyle said:
The only reason i bumped this thread was because a lot of posts where deleted discussing the rollo tomassi, pooks post, david deida and og mandino's writings.
I can account for at least one of the RT threads. I basically won a debate against him so it "disappeared".
 

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"How to meet and connect with women",ebook by Wayne Elise aka. Juggler. I like most of his style.
 

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Any book about the real world that makes you a more well-rounded person with something to talk about.
 

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I also just started reading The Red Queen - Sex and the Evolution of Human Nature by Matt Ridley. Great stuff!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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