Maxfarsigth
Don Juan
Hello mates. To sum up my journal, I am going to state the two main problems I am facing right now. I am also going to comment on them.
Plus, I would appreciate it if you guys can contribute with experiences, tips and general thoughts.
Problem No. 1: General cold approaching.
- I find it hard to spot girls to approach. I know one should approach a girl who is just there standing, but I find it awkward to do so if she is: walking, talking to someone else, in a group with guys, on the phone, or seems busy.
- I also find it hard to gather up my words and actions to not make an approach look weird. Rather than specific fear, is sometimes a general negative state of mind.
I have nearly performed some cold approaches, and the reason for that is that I can't seem to find the right approaching scenario. Even though, that might not even exist.
Problem No 2: Social Proof.
- In my last LTR which lasted about 2 yeas, I did'nt meet new people (to understand why read my posts). It was such an AFC relationship.
- I have been living again in this city for 2 years, so I don't really keep old classmates or old friends. Those who are still there really don't care about me.
- In my work, my mates are all over 30 years old. Also I work with 95% men. I am a junior Operations Engineer. Plus, I work by shifts, and don't have free time on a weekly basis.
- Hence, I have no social circle neither friends.
I now might be a little desperate for friends and meeting girls. On top of that I have no hobby other than doing excercise (jogging, weight lifting) or "improving my DJ skills". Do those count? =)
Everything is welcome now!
Plus, I would appreciate it if you guys can contribute with experiences, tips and general thoughts.
Problem No. 1: General cold approaching.
- I find it hard to spot girls to approach. I know one should approach a girl who is just there standing, but I find it awkward to do so if she is: walking, talking to someone else, in a group with guys, on the phone, or seems busy.
- I also find it hard to gather up my words and actions to not make an approach look weird. Rather than specific fear, is sometimes a general negative state of mind.
I have nearly performed some cold approaches, and the reason for that is that I can't seem to find the right approaching scenario. Even though, that might not even exist.
Problem No 2: Social Proof.
- In my last LTR which lasted about 2 yeas, I did'nt meet new people (to understand why read my posts). It was such an AFC relationship.
- I have been living again in this city for 2 years, so I don't really keep old classmates or old friends. Those who are still there really don't care about me.
- In my work, my mates are all over 30 years old. Also I work with 95% men. I am a junior Operations Engineer. Plus, I work by shifts, and don't have free time on a weekly basis.
- Hence, I have no social circle neither friends.
I now might be a little desperate for friends and meeting girls. On top of that I have no hobby other than doing excercise (jogging, weight lifting) or "improving my DJ skills". Do those count? =)
Everything is welcome now!
