Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Request To Remove Posting Maximums

Tenacity

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I figured this should go here in the Anything Else Section. Mainly a post to the Moderators in relation to the posting maximum rule. I believe this needs to be removed, what do other Forum members here think?

I have no idea why this rule is here? It makes no sense because if the purpose of the rule is to eliminate Trolls, well, as we have seen lately the rule has done a piss poor job of doing that. If the purpose of the rule is to discourage people from posting on SoSuave all day and to "go out into the real world", again, if someone has no life with a ton of time to sit around posting on Sosuave all day, then if there's a posting maximum they will just go to another Board and post there for the remainder of the day.

This rule needs to be eliminated. You get into a decent discussion or debate with Forum Members, and you can't respond for 24 hours until the posting maximum is lifted. This rule completely and utterly makes no sense.

Plus, while the posting maximum is in place, apparently you can still create a new thread. Lol, come on Moderators, it's time to do away with this insane rule.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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piranha45

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So according to that thread, the site owner is the one who implemented this rule.
 

penkitten

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Yep! He sure did.... but before that it was chaos! Members posting and replying to 11 things or more! I tease. It was nonstop posting. Which was great until members didn't get along with each other's opinions and flamed each other. Eventually something had to give and this was a choice he made. Less issues now.
 

amazingswayze

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There's pros and cons. Nothing wrong with status quo. I hit the limit sometimes but nobody needs 10+ posts a day. I see where you're coming from. I don't care too much though because that would give the trolls more power. some guys on this site make a new account, post 10 times, and get banned. might be better this way.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Maximus Rex

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It's Lazy Moderating

Why is that other message boards that have a posting limit? Maybe it's because trouble makers are quickly bounced from the board. On a forum such as this, trolling and flame wars are bound to happen. The problem is that So Suave is quite slow to bounce obvious trouble makers and trolls from the forum
 

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There is something to be said for "a little less conversation a little more action". After 10 posts one should spend the rest of the day in real life. Just my opinion.
 

Fatal Jay

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this question has been asked for years now, it's no point in asking because it wont happen
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I think this is like a court case. If you have nothing new to say, the judge isnt gonna change his decission based on things he's already heard before. I'm sure the owner knows people don't like it but has decided that it's worth it anyway.
 

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I figured this should go here in the Anything Else Section. Mainly a post to the Moderators in relation to the posting maximum rule. I believe this needs to be removed, what do other Forum members here think?

I have no idea why this rule is here? It makes no sense because if the purpose of the rule is to eliminate Trolls, well, as we have seen lately the rule has done a piss poor job of doing that. If the purpose of the rule is to discourage people from posting on SoSuave all day and to "go out into the real world", again, if someone has no life with a ton of time to sit around posting on Sosuave all day, then if there's a posting maximum they will just go to another Board and post there for the remainder of the day.

This rule needs to be eliminated. You get into a decent discussion or debate with Forum Members, and you can't respond for 24 hours until the posting maximum is lifted. This rule completely and utterly makes no sense.

Plus, while the posting maximum is in place, apparently you can still create a new thread. Lol, come on Moderators, it's time to do away with this insane rule.
I demand that they remove this rule!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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