"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Request for glossary of terms and explanation of "**** carousel"

cervantesscthree

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What's up peeps, there's loads of terms that people use on the forum and in the community that a lot of people aint familiar with, like: NC & OP, I wasn't aware of these till I joined the forum. I can't find a glossary of terms so it could be useful if someone could start a thread that's a sticky with some of the main terms...

Also what does it mean when people say the "coc* carousel"? An in depth description would be much appreciated.

One last thing. A lot - most - of the girls I meet, after a short while end up txting a lot, easily over 20x in a day (and these are the ones I've slept/sleep with). Is this because we're in our early twenties and late teens, or is the new generation becoming less forward with communication? I try to ring ppl as much as possible but these chicks love txting.

Thanks ppl
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Common sense goes a long way... Unfortunately, people don't use it at all.

NC= No contact
OP= Original poster

C*ck carousel means they are hoes. Is it really that hard to figure out? A carousel is something that spins round and round and you get on it by grabbing onto it.
 

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So does politeness, if you don't know and you don't ask how are you ever supposed to find out?

Yes, I said a description, Rollo uses it on his blog a lot, and he says stuff similar to "men fear the girl riding the **** carousel" and that men fear girls riding it once they hit their late teens and early-mid twenties.

I don't understand why a woman would suddenly turn into a sausage grinder out of nowhere, please elaborate if you can
 

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There's not much to elaborate. Many women go gap from one guy to the next, racking up a partner number that they really wouldn't like if they sat down and thought about it.

Everyone, men and women, get de-sensitized from a number of relationships. The longer you stay out there, the more relationships you enter and exit, the easier it becomes.

Rollo's simile for women doing this is ' the c*ck carousel'.
 

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Fair enough.

Anyone got any thoughts on my question to do with the constant txting that's present these days?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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cervantesscthree said:
Fair enough.

Anyone got any thoughts on my question to do with the constant txting that's present these days?
Most women love attention and the extreme ones we call "attention wh0res." Attention gives them a sense of validation and the more that comes, the greater their ego gets. Narcissism, if not there already, easily grows. Attention then becomes "narcissistic supply."

Today, the various venues from which a woman can gain attention has increased tremendously: facebook, instragram, texts, and so on.

Women can then become addicted to attention, beyond just giving them validation and feeding egos, if they've become narcissistic, it is something they become addicted to and crave. It's hard to get enough.

A well adjusted adjust doesn't need to have long, drawn out conversations on texts. Ever seen guys go on and on and on with each other over text? No. Share relevant information and move on with their lives.

Texting for some girls are like when a dog gets petted and doesn't want you to stop. They keep coming back for me.

If they are attracted to you and hot for you, they'll text back and forth all the time.

If their level of interest in moderate to low, and if your text game is weak, the more you text the more likely their interests will in fact drop.

So, if you are not banging her and she's not showing high interest, constant texting only feeds her ego and need for attention but is not a good way to build attraction and rapport. Once she's gotten her fill of narcissistic supply from you, additional texting bores her. In such a situation, it is not YOU she's seeking, but attention. Once received, you become a chore for her if she's not itching for you to rail her.

Cell phones are little relationship grenades. Use carefully.
 

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:yes: Now that's what a call a useful answer thanks man, you've shed a lot of light on things.

Like the last line about cell phones being relationship grenades, plenty of girls I know have literally wrestled me to get my phone out my hand just to see who else I'm txting...
 
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