"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Reputation Points [Merged thread]

ketostix

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MacAvoy said:
How come when I try to give rep points it says you have to spread it around before giving it to guru again. When I can honestly say I haven't given any to guru before or anyone in a while for that matter.

It always says that when you rep someone. They got the rep. I think it means that you have to go and rep a different person before you can rep that same person again.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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KarmaSutra

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Quiksilver said:
Despite appearances, rep points aren't broken, they're just on a very small scale... meaning that it takes upwards of 100 points to get 2 bars.

ss rep points
So close, yet so far away . . .
 

MacAvoy

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ketostix said:
It always says that when you rep someone. They got the rep. I think it means that you have to go and rep a different person before you can rep that same person again.
I disagree because I repped someone and it asked me to put in a comment. So there must be a different reason.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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guru1000

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MacAvoy said:
How come when I try to give rep points it says you have to spread it around before giving it to guru again. When I can honestly say I haven't given any to guru before or anyone in a while for that matter.
I havent recieved any reps from you. Must be a gliche.:eek:
 

lordson

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its all about quality

i think having a good rep to post ration is indicitive of your contribution here

i have a pretty good one i think

and a few people come to me for advice, and i'm proud of that
 

PRMoon

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I said, "Mom, what are you doing, you're ruining my rep"

She said, "You're only sixteen, you don't have a rep yet"
 

mpimpin

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I Turned off my rep points long ago. One of the reasons I really liked this forum was b/c we didn't really use them. Now that its the new craze though I will rep others for their sake.
 

speed dawg

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DrBeard neg-repped me.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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MacAvoy

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Attn Mods

Ok, I just tried to give out my weekly rep and it wouldn't let me. It said you must spread around your reps before you give it to reset again.

How come this keeps happening to me?
 

DavenJuan

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MacAvoy said:
Ok, I just tried to give out my weekly rep and it wouldn't let me. It said you must spread around your reps before you give it to reset again.

How come this keeps happening to me?
cuz your suppose to give me points twice a week:up:
 

thedeparted

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What are reputation points?

Someone pls inform me. Thanks!
 

ChrizZ

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The person with the most rep points will be crowned Mr.Sosuave.

The person with the least rep points will be liquidated.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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TheVirtualMind

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ChrizZ said:
The person with the most rep points will be crowned Mr.Sosuave.

The person with the least rep points will be liquidated.
Yeah, something like that...

If you see a post that you think gives good advice, give someone positive reputation. If you think it sucks, give negative rep. There is no real use for it right now aside from showing who gives good advice and who gives bad, though it's still early (and flawed when you see some of the people with higher rep...)
 

taiyuu_otoko

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internet attempt at social proof, in addition to the number of posts.

people with many posts and many rep points are generally a good indication of the current collective consciousness of any particular message board.
 

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iqqi said:
^^^ LOL, you are the only person I have ever seen with a red bar! That's cool.
Your one of the few people that have three bars as well.

comic_relief
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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