qweretyuiopas
Master Don Juan
Hmm, didnt even know we had rep points till now, I see I havent been repped. O well, how long has this been here? Is it a recent thing? How do you know how many people have? Like how u know who had the least and most?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Go to the Members List and click the heading for reputation. It doesn't give you numbers, but it has everyone in order.qweretyuiopas said:Hmm, didnt even know we had rep points till now, I see I havent been repped. O well, how long has this been here? Is it a recent thing? How do you know how many people have? Like how u know who had the least and most?
People actually use reputation points?manuva said:We have reputation points?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
STR8UP said:Famous soon enough huh?
I would like to thank my fellow Sosuavers, the chick who flaked on me after handing me her number that BROUGHT me to Sosuave, and lastly The Academy....
I didn't even realize those green bars were there till someone commented on how only two people have two green bars, and I realized i was one of them.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Karma gave me bad rep and called me a man.Falcon said:reputation to me seems broken, or at least half of it. You rarely ever see anyone with bad rep (red bars). Even most spammers who eventually get banned have green bars. I mean what's the point if the rep system doesn't identify disruptive posters?
azanon said:I have mine enabled, but I'm not a huge fan of that sort of thing. Why? Because, I'm a little dubious of any system that inherently will have the effect of encouraging someone to post what others simply want to hear rather than what they actually think.
If it were me and the board allowed it, I'd rig the system to award a point whether negative or positive was clicked. That way, the system would be identifying posts that mattered or had some sort of impact over those that were, basically, forgettable. The few that gave me a neg hit in the past probably thought they insulted or "got at" me. What they actually did was tell me that I had an impact on them and I took it as a compliment. This gets into the whole "the opposite of love is not hate" truth..... I digress....
As for folks who are just completely out of line, that's what the moderators are for.
.... not if I was a moderator. I addressed this scenario, did I not? ;-)ketostix said:That's a pretty good point but the only problem is someone like IQQi would have 2 bars lol.
I think a genuine negative rep that couldn't be viewed as trolling is going to be pretty rare..... not impossible, but pretty rare. Can you even think of one regular here who you think most people would consider a negative rep poster, but isn't trolling?And I think you can have negative rep, so that's the same concept but I'm not sure. I never thought to neg someone. Unless they're a known troll poster, I don't see the point.
Well there's some regular posters who are basically trolls but maybe one bar is as slow as you can go on SS, or maybe guys on here don't bother negging and only add positive points when they see fit. I'd think if people were both negging troll posters much on here and it's possible to have a negative rep than someone like say iqqi would be in the red. I'm not really sure how it works though.azanon said:.... not if I was a moderator. I addressed this scenario, did I not? ;-)
I think a genuine negative rep that couldn't be viewed as trolling is going to be pretty rare..... not impossible, but pretty rare. Can you even think of one regular here who you think most people would consider a negative rep poster, but isn't trolling?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Ketostix your a reputable poster why are you even paying attention to iqqi. Why is anyone on this forum pay attention to her? We have a lot of brothers that need help and they get no help on there threads. Yet when Iqqi posts a thread we get 300 AFC's willing to help her out. Stop the madness. Stop replying to her threads. She is a woman in a MANS FORUM. Don't take her seriously.ketostix said:Uh I guess it would go over my head when both of your 2 post were right after mine and the first one even had arrows pointing up at my post. Then in the second one you end it with "I was talking about Karma", whatever that was referring to. Yeah, it's as clear as mud :crazy:.
Touche' Sir.lookyoung said:Ketostix your a reputable poster why are you even paying attention to iqqi. Why is anyone on this forum pay attention to her? We have a lot of brothers that need help and they get no help on there threads. Yet when Iqqi posts a thread we get 300 AFC's willing to help her out. Stop the madness. Stop replying to her threads. She is a woman in a MANS FORUM. Don't take her seriously.
Good point and taken into consideration, I should focus my efforts else where. Although there actually is something for someone to take away within some of our replies to some of the women posters on here.lookyoung said:Ketostix your a reputable poster why are you even paying attention to iqqi. Why is anyone on this forum pay attention to her? We have a lot of brothers that need help and they get no help on there threads. Yet when Iqqi posts a thread we get 300 AFC's willing to help her out. Stop the madness. Stop replying to her threads. She is a woman in a MANS FORUM. Don't take her seriously.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.